Don't Call Me Darlin'

Carolyn Kendrick & Tristan Scroggins

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Before social media, the women of bluegrass had a bright blue newsletter that showed up in the mailbox and said what no one would say out loud. In Don't Call Me Darlin', host Carolyn Kendrick and co-creator Tristan Scroggins hit the road to find the women Murphy Henry profiled decades ago, in a story about genre, identity, feminism, and the communities we built before the internet. What can our foremothers teach us about how to challenge the system? And when should we challenge our own expectations? In conversations with legends such as Alice Gerrard, Kristin Scott Benson, Laurie Lewis, Missy Raines, Alison Brown, Rhonda Vincent, Sierra Hull, Bronwyn Keith-Hynes, and many more, our hosts learn how tradition can bring community together and how it can break it apart. On this road trip, Bluegrass music becomes an unlikely catalyst for exploring the paradoxical world of bluegrass, an American art form with American problems, strengths, and growing pains. Don't Call Me Darlin' is distributed by The Bluegrass Situation Podcast Network.

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