ELLIOTT CONNIE - Spaghetti & Boundaries

Host Coline Witt sits down with psychotherapist, author, and podcaster Elliot Connie (@elliottspeaks) one of the leading voices in Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) for a real conversation about healing, boundaries, anxiety, depression, and purpose. Over a broke meal of spaghetti and meat sauce, Elliot shares how a cheap, filling dish he learned to cook as a teen became more than food—it became a form of survival, routine, and control during a turbulent childhood. He opens up about growing up with depression and anxiety, navigating an abusive and inconsistent father, and being supported by a mother who gave him responsibility and space to cook. Elliot also breaks down: - How he learned to set firm boundaries (including “forgiveness without access”) - The professor who helped him find direction and pursue graduate school - How he built a successful private practice and pushed brief therapy despite resistance - Why he wrote six books to teach practical therapy skills (including Change Your Questions, Change Your Future) - His media journey, including projects connected to Tiffany Haddish and Black Effect, after connecting with Charlamagne Tha God If you’re trying to heal, protect your peace, or build a life with intention—this episode will meet you where you are. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.