#546 | The Mental Health Advice Nobody Wants To Hear

Send us Fan Mail Most of us look for relief from anxiety and low moods in all the usual places, but rarely question the rooms, routines, and people we return to every single day. Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas step outside their usual format to share the mental health advice that years behind the scenes have shown them people avoid most. It starts with Bianca's story of smoking hookah from childhood into her mid-twenties, and why every promise to quit fell apart when everyone around her kept lighting up. In this episode, we unpack why your environment shapes your mental health more than anyone is willing to admit, how the 80/20 rule reveals where your habits really come from, and why settling for a "good enough" life leaves so many people feeling empty. Emilia shares two questions to audit the spaces you spend the most time in, Bianca explains why the need to belong can outweigh even an athlete's identity, and together they make the case that loving someone is not the same as them being good for you. You'll also hear why belief steps, not baby steps, are what move your behavior toward the person you want to become. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #505 | Why We Feel Attacked When People Try to Help - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/505-why-we-feel-attacked-when-people-try-to-help/id1511831621?i=1000768356024  Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "What You're Carrying That Was Never Yours To Hold" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)  Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794  Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/  Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia  Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/  Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes:  (0:00) Intro  (1:19) What you avoid is what you need  (2:48) Your environment isn't built for you  (5:40) Why good enough feels empty  (6:51) Smoking hookah at nine years old  (9:06) Can't quit when everyone smokes  (9:39) Julie shares her experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures  (11:14) Why environment never shows up in search  (13:24) Audit where you spend 80% of your time  (17:13) Loving someone isn't enough  (19:03) Where healthy habits are celebrated  (21:38) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming [Monday's episode!)