Ep. 429 - Sabrina Zohar on How to Manifest the Love You Want

Have you ever chased someone who wasn’t fully choosing you, overanalyzed every text, or kept repeating the same relationship patterns, even when you knew you deserved more? What if secure love isn’t about becoming more desirable, but about feeling safe and worthy within yourself? In this honest, empowering episode, Jessica sits down with dating and relationship coach, podcast host, and author of Why Am I Like This? Sabrina Zohar to unpack the subconscious patterns, attachment wounds, and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in the same cycles. After anxious attachment, heartbreak, and self-abandonment (including sending 173 texts to someone who rejected her), Sabrina shares how she broke free from validation-seeking and built the self-worth to experience a completely different kind of love. Jessica also opens up about healing her own anxious attachment through the TBM work and how reprogramming limiting beliefs changed her experience of trust, safety, and love. Whether you’re dating, manifesting a partner, healing from heartbreak, or deepening an existing relationship, this conversation is a reminder: you don’t have to be perfect to be worthy of love. You just have to stop abandoning yourself in pursuit of it. Full show notes → https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Free Masterclass: Watch Now Missed Lacy and Jessica’s live masterclass earlier this week? You can still get exclusive access to the free replay! Discover the manifestation myths keeping you stuck and the 3 things you need to manifest everything you’ve ever dreamed of. The TBM App Has Upleveled! Our app just got a major upgrade to make your manifestation ritual easier and more personalized. Get curated weekly practices, personalized playlists, a first-year roadmap, and all the DIs you know and love to uplevel every area of your life. Join the Pathway Membership Use code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month! The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential. LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBM Join the Pathway now - Return to Magic Challenge, Money Challenge, and Nervous System Reset available now! New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You Started Learn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial Library Ready to find out what’s holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation Story Submit to Be a Process Guest What did you manifest during the Be Seen Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! 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Go to trykepos.com/TBM, discount automatically applied with their 30-day money back guarantee you can try it completely risk free. kēpos™ For Digestion In this episode we talk about: How anxious attachment develops and why it can keep us chasing emotionally unavailable partners Sabrina Zohar's story of sending 173 texts and the deeper abandonment wounds Why childhood conditioning and subconscious beliefs influence who we're attracted to The difference between genuine chemistry and nervous system activation How to recognize when you're attached to the fantasy of someone rather than the reality of the relationship Are you seeing a red flag? Or is it your anxiety and programming overly protecting you? Why “if he wanted to, he would” is a trap that bears a more nuanced approach in dating Why what you think you want in a partner may be different from what you actually need How to distinguish relationship red flags from anxiety, fear, and protective programming Why the popular dating advice "if they wanted to, they would" doesn't tell the whole story Jessica's personal journey of healing trust issues and anxious attachment through TBM Why you don't need to be fully healed or perfectly unblocked to manifest a healthy relationship The importance of self-compassion, and inner child reparenting How to stop self-abandoning, communicate your needs, and establish boundaries What to prioritize when dating in your 30s and 40s, especially when marriage and family are important goals How to navigate conflict through regulation, vulnerable communication, and repair Mentioned In the Episode: Find our Be Seen Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Fight of Flight DI, the Driver’s Seat DI, and all of our Self-Worth and Unblocking DIs) Connect with Sabrina Sabrina on Instagram Sabrina on TikTok Preorder Sabrina’s book now!: Why Am I Like This?: Break Your Relationship Patterns and Create the Life You Want HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Available now! The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM’s Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way. At TBM, we’ve redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity. Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you’ll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true self With over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you’re meant to live. Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us! @tobemagnetic (IG) @Lacyannephillips Lacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here @Jessicaashleygill @tobemagnetic (youtube) @expandedpodcast