303. Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging with Sabrina Zohar

Why do we keep repeating patterns that don’t serve us? Today I'm sitting down with Sabrina Zohar, relationship coach, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and author of the new book Why Am I Like This, to figure out why. We’re talking about the unconscious programming behind how we handle love, conflict, rejection, and even our own success. If you've ever over-given, stayed too long, or known exactly what you were doing while doing it anyway, you're in the right place. Sabrina walks through two questions that can interrupt an old belief before it makes a present-day decision, what self-abandonment looks like on a random Tuesday, and how all of it shapes what you think you're allowed to ask for and earn. You will feel seen. You will also feel a little called out. Share it with every woman in your life. Sabrina’s Links: Website: https://sabrinazohar.com/ Book: https://sabrinazohar.com/book Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠. 00:00 Intro 01:35 The pattern women swear isn't a pattern 02:40 Window of tolerance and why discomfort feels unbearable 08:10 The texting spiral, and the two questions that interrupt it 13:20 173 texts: what Sabrina understands about her younger self now 17:00 Gut vs. anxiety (does the pinch match the ouch?) 19:05 Being attached to the story of a relationship 22:55 Finding the belief underneath the behavior 27:45 When your "logical" brain makes the worst decisions 31:20 Getting out of your head and into your body 32:30 Hiring out of fear, and learning to trust yourself 41:35 What self-abandonment looks like on an ordinary day 44:30 Saying no, boundaries, and grieving who you lose 49:10 You're allowed to outgrow people 51:00 How worthiness shapes what you ask for and earn 56:15 Moving through shame instead of ruminating 66:05 Healing doesn't mean never getting triggered 70:05 What to do the moment you notice yourself shrinking 73:40 The self-trust marble jar Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices