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What happens when you finally stop forcing things to happen? When you stop trying to make the relationship work, force the door open, control the outcome, or figure out every detail of what comes next? What if that's the moment you finally start seeing what God has been doing all along? In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, Emily talks about the divine alignment she's experiencing in her own life after a season of healing, surrender, obedience, and waiting on God. For so long, she thought she had to make things happen. But God began showing her something different: If you have to force it, you may be trying to carry something God never asked you to carry. Emily shares the moment God highlighted the word FORCE for her and how that revelation has changed the way she looks at relationships, opportunities, timing, and the future. This isn't about sitting around doing nothing. It's about learning the difference between moving with God and trying to get ahead of Him. And if you're sitting in heartbreak, coming out of a toxic relationship, recovering from a breakup, or wondering why your life isn't unfolding the way you thought it would... I want you to hear this: Your current season is not the end of your story. You don't have to force the next chapter. You don't have to chase what God has for you. You don't have to have every detail figured out before you take the next step. Sometimes faith looks like opening your hands and saying, "God, You have the pen. I'll trust You with the story." Because when you stop forcing it, something beautiful can happen. You begin to see what God was already putting into place. You begin to recognize His timing. And sometimes... you realize you weren't watching your life fall apart. You were watching it come into alignment. 💌 Join The Holy Rescue Newsletter When you join the newsletter, you'll receive: 🎧 Podcast updates, listener Q&As, and behind-the-scenes moments. 🔐 Early access to upcoming releases, special announcements, and new drops inside The Vault. A curated collection of creations, art prints, books, resources, and meaningful pieces from this journey. Be the first to know when the book drops! 👉 https://girldatethegoodguy.com 🎧 Listen to Girl, Date the Good Guy Follow the show so you never miss an episode. New episodes every Thursday at 5:00 AM. ⭐ Help More Women Find This Message If this episode spoke to you, share it with a woman who needs to hear it. And if you've been enjoying Girl, Date the Good Guy, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Your review helps another woman find this space. 🤍 Connect with Emily [email protected] 🎵 Listen to Emily's Song Want a little more Emily Jordan? Listen to "I'm a Real Woman" by Emily Jordan on Apple Music. Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” on Apple Music

Fear can keep you stuck in places God is trying to pull you out of. In this episode, Emily gets real about the role fear played in her own life—from living in a toxic relationship and being afraid of what would happen if she left, to finally surrendering her fear to God and taking the steps He was asking her to take. Leaving didn't mean everything instantly became easy. There was uncertainty, financial pressure, anxiety, loss, and a whole lot of learning how to trust God one step at a time. And even after getting out, Emily discovered that leaving the toxic situation was only the beginning. The trauma, fear, suspicion, control, and survival patterns still needed to be healed. This is a conversation about what happens when fear follows you into your next season—and why God doesn't just want to change your circumstances. He wants to heal the places inside of you that were shaped by what you've survived. If you're sitting in heartbreak, coming out of a toxic relationship, afraid to start over, or wondering what you're supposed to do next, this episode is for you. You don't have to see the whole staircase. You just have to trust God with the next step. In this episode, we talk about: How fear can keep you trapped in toxic relationships The fear of leaving and the fear of the unknown Learning to surrender fear to God Taking a leap of faith when you don't have everything figured out Why leaving a toxic relationship doesn't automatically mean you're healed How trauma can follow you into new relationships The importance of healing before stepping into something new God's protection, provision, and guidance Why you don't have to figure out your entire future today What it looks like to trust God with your next step Finding hope after heartbreak and toxic relationships If you're in immediate danger or preparing to leave an abusive relationship, please seek trusted support and make a safety plan. You don't have to do it alone. Stay Connected If this episode spoke to you, share it with a woman who needs to hear it. Follow Girl, Date the Good Guy so you never miss a new episode, and if you've been enjoying the podcast, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Your review helps another woman find this space. And if you'd like to stay connected between episodes, join The Holy Rescue Love Letters for weekly encouragement, behind-the-scenes updates, and letters from my heart to yours. I'll see you next Thursday at 5:00 AM. Until then, keep your eyes on Jesus. And remember... Welcome to your Holy Rescue. ❤️ 💌 Join The Holy Rescue Newsletter When you join the newsletter, you'll receive: 🎧 Podcast updates, listener Q&As, and behind-the-scenes moments. 🔐 Early access to upcoming releases, special announcements, and new drops inside The Vault. A curated collection of creations, art prints, books, resources, and meaningful pieces from this journey. Be the first to know when the book drops! 👉 girldatethegoodguy.com 🎧 Listen to Girl, Date the Good Guy Follow the show so you never miss an episode. ⭐ Help More Women Find This Message Leave a review on Apple Podcasts and share this episode with a woman who needs this rescue. 🤍 Connect with Emily [email protected] 🎵 Listen to Emily's Song Want a little more Emily Jordan? Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” by Emily Jordan on Apple Music. Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” on Apple Music

What if the man you've been praying for doesn't look exactly like the man you pictured? What if you've been asking God for a perfect man… when He may be teaching you how to recognize a good man? Sis, this one is personal for me. Because I was demanding a perfect man when God gave me a good man. A man with a heart of gold. And I had to let God deal with my expectations, my checklist, and my idea of what a man of God was supposed to look like. In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, we're talking about the lie of perfection in relationships—and what happens when you stop looking for a finished product and start paying attention to posture over perfection. Because a good man doesn't have to have everything figured out. He can still be learning. He can still be growing. He can still be becoming. The question isn't whether he's perfect. The question is: What's his posture toward God? Is he teachable? Is he willing to grow? Does he want to know Jesus more? Does he take responsibility? Is he moving toward Christ? And here's the part we don't always want to hear… You don't get to demand a finished man while you're still allowing God to work on you. Maybe God isn't just using the relationship to grow him. Maybe He's growing you, too. In this episode, we're talking about: Why perfection is an impossible standard The difference between a good man and a perfect man Why posture matters more than perfection Why “unfinished” doesn't automatically mean “wrong” How to recognize a man who is genuinely willing to grow Why you shouldn't date potential—but also shouldn't reject someone simply because he's still growing How God can use relationships to sharpen and grow us What it looks like to surrender your checklist to God Why we need to stop expecting relationships to make us happy and start asking how God may be using them to make us holy And the very real possibility that the woman asking God for a perfect man may still have some growing of her own to do. 😂 And yes… there may be a little coffee talk in this one. ☕😂 Because sometimes growth looks like realizing you don't need a perfect man. You just need a good man with a heart that's turned toward God. And personally? I can't wait to make this man coffee every morning. Black? A little sugar? Creamer? Anything for you! 😂 Holy Reflection Ask yourself: Have I been rejecting imperfect people because I actually expect perfection? Am I looking at someone's heart and direction, or am I looking at my checklist? And one more: Am I willing to let God work on me just as much as I'm asking Him to work on the person I'm praying for? Stay Connected If this episode spoke to you, follow Girl, Date the Good Guy, share this episode with a woman who needs to hear it, and if you're listening on Apple Podcasts, leave a review. And if you're ready for what's coming next, check the show notes for the latest Holy Rescue updates and book reveal. This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍 💌 Join The Holy Rescue Newsletter When you join the newsletter, you'll receive: 🎧 Podcast updates, listener Q&As, and behind-the-scenes moments. 🔐 Early access to upcoming releases, special announcements, and new drops inside The Vault. A curated collection of creations, art prints, books, resources, and meaningful pieces from this journey. Be the first to know when the book drops! 👉 https://girldatethegoodguy.com 🎧 Listen to Girl, Date the Good GuyFollow the show so you never miss an episode. ⭐ Help More Women Find This MessageLeave a review on Apple Podcasts and share this episode with a woman who needs this rescue. 🤍 Connect with [email protected] Listen to Emily's Song Want a little more Emily Jordan? Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” by Emily Jordan on Apple Music. Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” on Apple Music

What if God is asking you to move… but you don't feel ready? What if you're standing at the bottom of the staircase, asking God to turn on every light so you can see exactly where you're going? Sis… that's not how faith works. In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, we're talking about what it really looks like to trust God when you don't have the whole plan. We start with Psalm 37:4 and the desires of our hearts—and why delighting in God isn't about treating Him like a genie who gives us everything we want. When we fully surrender our lives to Christ and walk with Him, He begins transforming our hearts and aligning our desires with His. And that's where faith comes in. Because sometimes God doesn't give you the whole staircase. He gives you the next step. I'll share what I've been learning about having what I call “crazy faith”—including moments when God has asked me to move, release things, and prepare for what's next without knowing exactly how everything would come together. We'll talk about: Why faith doesn't require you to see the whole picture Why surrender has to come before the step What Psalm 37:4 really means about the desires of your heart How God begins to align our desires with His as we walk with Him The difference between faith and certainty Why being afraid doesn't mean you don't have faith What Abraham teaches us about going without knowing where you're going Why faith eventually requires movement What to do when God says “go” before you feel ready Why you shouldn't let fear become your GPS How faith applies to your love life, singleness, waiting, and relationships Why you don't need the whole love story to obey God today How to recognize and take your next step And maybe the biggest question of all: What if the thing you're afraid to step into is actually the place God is taking you? You don't need to see the whole staircase. You just need to trust the One who's leading you. Scriptures Mentioned Psalm 37:4Jeremiah 29:11–13Proverbs 3:5–6John 15:7Hebrews 11:1Hebrews 11:8 Holy Reflection Take some time this week and ask yourself: What step have I been afraid to take because I don't know what happens after it? Have I truly surrendered the outcome to God? What is God asking me to do next? Not step seven. Not the whole staircase. Just the next step. Stay Connected If this episode spoke to you, follow Girl, Date the Good Guy so you don't miss the next Holy Rescue. Share this episode with a sister who may be standing at the bottom of her own staircase right now. And if you're listening on Apple Podcasts, leave a review. Your review helps another woman find this podcast when she needs it. And if you haven't joined the Holy Rescue Love Letters, come get on the list. I'll be sharing what's happening behind the scenes and what's coming next. Until next time, sis… Trust God. Take the next step. 💌 Join The Holy Rescue Newsletter When you join the newsletter, you'll receive: 🎧 Podcast updates, listener Q&As, and behind-the-scenes moments. 🔐 Early access to upcoming releases, special announcements, and new drops inside The Vault. A curated collection of creations, art prints, books, resources, and meaningful pieces from this journey. Be the first to know when the book drops! 👉 https://girldatethegoodguy.com 🎧 Listen to Girl, Date the Good GuyFollow the show so you never miss an episode. ⭐ Help More Women Find This MessageLeave a review on Apple Podcasts and share this episode with a woman who needs this rescue. 🤍 Connect with [email protected] Listen to Emily's Song Want a little more Emily Jordan? Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” by Emily Jordan on Apple Music. Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” on Apple Music

What if letting go isn’t giving up on love? What if sometimes, it’s the very thing God uses to teach you what love really is? Sis, there’s a difference between holding on because God told you to—and holding on because you’re afraid to release what you want. In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, we’re talking about the uncomfortable truth of Holy Love: sometimes love requires surrender. Not chasing. Not forcing. Not manipulating the outcome. Not trying to make something happen before God’s timing. Sometimes, you have to open your hand and trust God with what—or who—you’ve been holding so tightly. We’ll talk about what it really means to love someone without losing yourself, how surrender can reveal what’s actually yours to carry, and why letting go doesn’t always mean the end. Sometimes, it simply means getting out of God’s way. Because Holy Love doesn’t require you to abandon your standards, your peace, or your relationship with God just to keep someone. Scripture:“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this.” — Psalm 37:5 So grab your coffee, sis, and come sit with me in your Holy Space. This is your Holy Rescue. In this episode, we’ll talk about: The difference between surrendering and giving up Why love cannot be built on chasing or control What happens when you release someone to God How Holy Love protects your peace and your standards Why sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let go Holy Reflection What am I still holding onto that God is asking me to place back in His hands? If this episode spoke to you, don’t keep it to yourself. Share it with a sister who may need this reminder today. Girl, Date the Good Guy is your Holy Space to heal your heart, raise your standards, and learn what God-led love can actually look like. Until next time, sis—This is your Holy Rescue! 💌 Join The Holy Rescue Newsletter When you join the newsletter, you'll receive: 🎧 Podcast updates, listener Q&As, and behind-the-scenes moments. 🔐 Early access to upcoming releases, special announcements, and new drops inside The Vault. A curated collection of creations, art prints, books, resources, and meaningful pieces from this journey. Be the first to know when the book drops! 👉 https://girldatethegoodguy.com 🎧 Listen to Girl, Date the Good GuyFollow the show so you never miss an episode. ⭐ Help More Women Find This MessageLeave a review on Apple Podcasts and share this episode with a woman who needs this rescue. 🤍 Connect with [email protected] Listen to Emily's Song Want a little more Emily Jordan? Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” by Emily Jordan on Apple Music. Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” on Apple Music