Is Your Kitchen Sink Voice Killing Your Happily Ever After?

Do you have a place where you rehearse how dreadful your partner is? For me it was the kitchen sink. I stood at that sink and this was my litany while I washed dishes. “Here I am. Alone again. Cinderella. I’m the only one who cleans this kitchen.” We all do it, right? Poor me. My life sucks. Everyone else has it better. And we want to blame someone for our sucky life. If you are like me and everyone else I know, the easiest person to blame is your partner. Today we’ll focus on those moments you’re likely to be critical of your partner. We’ll discuss how your Kitchen Sink Voice turns an ordinary complaint into a courtroom where your partner is always the defendant. We’ll address how curiosity can interrupt the blame-shame cycle you might have when criticism shows up and how curiosity can allow you to discover what you’re actually feeling in your body which wakes up your compassion—for yourself and your partner. These three C’s—criticism > curiosity > and compassion can become a practice for you to transform the way you think, and thus the way you connect to your partner. Habit for Your Happily Ever After This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to identify where your Kitchen Sink Voice lives. We all have one. When you can find your Kitchen Sink Voice, you’re able to begin to practice with the 3 C’s: criticism > curiosity > compassion. Date Night Discussion Tell your partner about your Kitchen Sink Voice. Ask your partner if they have a Kitchen Sink Voice. If you were able to find your equivalent for my Brown Grass Voice, how would the story change? Want more? The single most important habit for your marriage Links I Mention The Lizard Brain Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Follow me on Instagram. Reach me at 970-210-4480