Happy Slut

Isaac Cardona has a degree in accounting, a penchant for devising ambitious community service projects, a vanilla husband he calls his soulmate, and a deep desire to be flogged by his sir. He's also my very first local happy slut! Based right here in San Antonio, Texas, a place one might not expect there to be a social group for gay men who love leather. AND YET! Isaac is one of the founding members of the San Antonio Leather Men, and he's helped grow them into one of the biggest leather groups in Texas in the last four years. In this episode: The Hanky Code, decoded: what the different colors actually mean (yes, we go there) Growing up Jehovah's Witness, getting kicked out of the church at sixteen, and the uncle whose unapologetic queerness changed everything His "emancipation proclamation" coming-out story, timed down to the hour Five years estranged from his parents, and how that relationship slowly mended Meeting his husband of six years by mercilessly teasing their lovesick friends on Facebook Opening up a vanilla marriage into an ethically non-monogamous one How a now-closed dive bar became "home" and launched him into leather culture Building the San Antonio Leathermen from twelve people at a social to 75+ Winning the title Mr. Alamo City Leather and using it to fund toy drives, food drives, and an upcoming AIDS Foundation fundraiser What actually happens in his body and mind when he goes "primal" during impact play The harm-reduction rules he swears by for his more adventurous kinks Why living out loud and unashamed tends to turn people into more generous, active members of their community — a pattern Samia keeps finding, episode after episode, once patriarchy and purity culture stop running the show FOLLOW THE SAN ANTONIO LEATHERMEN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/satxleathermen/ Facebook (event calendar — socials, Kinky Carnival, gear nights): https://www.facebook.com/groups/satxleathermen/?ref=share_group_link Website: https://sanantonioleathermen.com/ Donate to the Nov 21 San Antonio AIDS Foundation fundraiser: https://www.sanantonioaids.org/donate SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the friend who thinks "kinky" and "community-minded" can't coexist, and to the one who still needs convincing that living out loud only makes the world around you better. xoxo, Samia

Taara Rose and her partner James were literally crowned Queen and King of the swinger community, but during the pandemic, Taara realized her pleasure had never been her priority. She set out to reconnect with her body, understand her own pleasure, and start advocating for it in all of her encounters. And the results...? Let's just say fire emojis abound, pinecones. And uhh, Taara got a tattoo of two pairs of scissors. 🔥✂️🔥✂️🔥 In this episode: How Taara and James started out as friends with benefits, and decided to be non-monogamous from day one of their Official Relationship Beach blowjobs under a double rainbow (yes, that really happened) What it's like to be crowned royalty at one of the biggest swinger conventions in the world The anxiety that started showing up in her body before events, how she wrote it off in the moment, and what it was actually telling her The article that got her kicked out of the swinger community How Taara's whole life changed when she trained to become a certified somatic sex educator The moment she realized her own pleasure had never been her priority Decentering orgasms and finding pleasure in coffee, dog walks, and sexy trees Negotiating a scene weeks in advance, and what two full weeks of aftercare looks like Going from swinging together to polyamory apart, and how James feels about it The Wheel of Consent, and why "thank you for your no" is part of it Why patriarchy has all of us—women and men—performing in bed instead of feeling anything WORK WITH TAARA ROSE: Website: https://sexedforthemodernbed.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexedforthemodernbed Email: [email protected] SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the friend who keeps saying yes when they want to say no, and to the one who thinks "listen to your body" sounds too woo-woo. xoxo, Samia

A man who makes the plans, cooks the meals, puts his phone away, and genuinely loves giving women pleasure? Pinecones, we need to talk. George Goulburn is a 54-year-old Australian male escort who traded corporate life for a career making women feel safe, seen, and wanted. His bookings can include beach getaways, home-cooked dinners, and plenty of sex—but the attention he describes giving his clients had me swooooooning! George joins me to talk about what women actually ask for when they hire him, how he finds genuine attraction in his work, and what happens when someone catches feelings. We get into pleasure after menopause, the emotional demands of paid intimacy, and the double standard that celebrates men for the same work women are shamed for. George loves his job, and he’s candid about both its joys and its complications. Whether or not you ever book an escort, you'll come away from this one knowing what it looks like when someone gives you their full, undivided attention, and why you deserve it. In this episode: What George's last booking looked like, hour by hour (spoiler: he booked the Airbnb and did all the cooking) Why most of his clients are over 50, and what they ask for that women in their 30s don't The line between performing intimacy and feeling it, and why George refuses to act How he screens clients, and the red flags that make him turn a booking down The "you don't haggle at Gucci" rule for knowing your worth The myth that menopause means you "shut up shop," and why some of his clients have never felt more alive The sensitive question: does he ever not get aroused on the job? Catching feelings for clients, and what he does when that happens Sex worker burnout, a week-long overseas booking, and how he recharges The scariest thing that's happened to him on the job Why a male escort gets called a "stud" while women doing the same work get stigma George's message to the men of the world who blame women for their problems FOLLOW GEORGE: Website: https://georgegoulburn.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/georgegoulburnofficial SUPPORT THE SHOW! FirmTech: use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% at https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care: use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off at https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Become a paying subscriber on Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast Share this episode with the friend who's sworn off dating apps forever, and with the man in your life who could stand to learn a thing or two about paying attention. xoxo, Samia

Abortion is good for sex. I SAID IT, pinecones. I’m proudly pro-abortion for lots of reasons, but one of them is that without abortion access, consenting to sex can mean consenting to pregnancy…and y’all, that can really, really ruin sex. And then there are all the other, bigger reasons: women being able to control their own bodies, direct their own lives, and not be forced to give birth when they don’t want to. That’s the real moral issue around abortion. Sophie Nir is the founder of the Abortion Positivity Project, a nonprofit working to move us beyond the apologetic, shame-filled language that still surrounds abortion—even among people who consider themselves pro-choice. Sophie joins me to talk about what happens when we stop treating abortion like something we have to reluctantly defend and start talking about it as healthcare, freedom, bodily autonomy, and a social good. In this episode: Why "safe, legal, and rare" still carries abortion stigma What Sophie calls abortion fan fiction Why "I could never have an abortion" may not mean what you think it means How abortion restrictions became embedded in American healthcare and politics, and how the original motivation wasn't morality - it was money Why Sophie uses the term forced birth How abortion is less politically controversial than we’ve been led to believe The times Sophie witnessed anti-abortion protestors coming into the clinic she worked at...to get abortions The difference between being pro-choice and being proudly pro-abortion The three pillars of abortion positivity Why abortion access matters for women’s economic, social, and political freedom What the Turnaway Study tells us about what happens when people are denied abortions they want Why saying "abortion is healthcare" isn’t enough if we don’t actually treat it like healthcare How nobody is conducting a national poll on whether Sophie should get sinus surgery What it would look like to live in a culture where restricting abortion feels completely unthinkable And why we need to stop talking like we’re losing CHECK OUT THE ABORTION POSITIVITY PROJECT: Learn more about Sophie’s work, donate, join the mailing list, and check out their merch: https://abortionpositivity.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abortionpositivity/ SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ -- Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care, including comprehensive STI testing, DoxyPEP, PrEP, sexual wellness medications, and more. https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb -- Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode made you rethink something you’ve always assumed about abortion, send it to somebody else who might be ready to think about it differently too. xoxo, Samia

Getting tested for STIs is responsible. But what if your “comprehensive” STI test…isn’t actually comprehensive? Shameless Care founder Robert Johnson found that out the hard way when he tested negative for gonorrhea while unknowingly carrying it in his throat and passing it to a partner. That experience eventually led him to build Shameless Care, a sex-positive telehealth company designed to fill some pretty massive gaps in sexual healthcare. Robert and his Sex Is Good podcast co-host Anna join me to talk about what we actually need to know to take the fear out of sex - so it can be ALL FUN, BABY! In this episode: How Robert tested negative for gonorrhea while unknowingly spreading it Why your STI panel may be missing infections Why HPV is the glitter of the sexual world The HPV vaccine—and why adults over 45 may still want it PrEP, DoxyPEP, and the golden age of sexual health Why gay orgies are safer now than they were in the ’80s and ’90s Why STI prevention can actually give us more sexual freedom The ridiculous stigma around herpes HSV-1 vs. HSV-2 and how either can show up orally or genitally My own experience living—and having lots of sex—with herpes How herpes has mostly functioned as an douchebag screener for me Viagra and Cialis…for women?! An oxytocin nasal spray that I immediately decided I need Why sex-positive doctors matter And why knowing more about sexual health can make sex a whole lot more fun CHECK OUT SHAMELESS CARE: Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from sex-positive doctors, including comprehensive STI testing, DoxyPEP, PrEP, valacyclovir, sexual wellness medications, oxytocin, and more. Samia’s Shameless Care affiliate link: https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off your order. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shamelesscareofficial/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@shamelesscareofficial LISTEN TO SEX IS GOOD: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-is-good-podcast/id1816808892 All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2505799/episodes The episode where they go into the weeds on DoxyPEP for Women: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doxypep-and-women-the-truth-shall-set-us-free/id1816808892?i=1000717357537 SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care. https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode taught you something you didn’t know about your own sexual health, send it to somebody else who deserves to have more fun and less fear around sex. xoxo, Samia