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Allison Whaley is a polyamorous slut who reads smut, runs her own feminist erotica subscription platform, and parents three small children with her husband...and if you think those things can't possibly coexist, have I got a sexy-yet-wholesome episode for you. I loved talking with Allison. She's the first person I've ever met who reports having had great sex in college and only ever being attracted to stable, well-adjusted people. MY CODEPENDENT HEART YEARNS FOR THIS SUPERPOWER. She also knows firsthand how powerful erotica can be for women in discovering what really turns us on - and how men can learn what women really want by reading the smut they can't get enough of. Meow! In this episode: Growing up around purity culture in Kentucky, and the guilt that followed her first experience of being really turned on Discovering her exhibitionist streak in college: rooftops, a hill in Forest Park, and the library, oh my! The time she and her husband hired a professional domme as an anniversary present Her extremely mild “toxic ho phase” How two early relationships set her standard for what healthy love feels like Burning out in fintech and deciding to stop building someone else’s dream Why romance is the cash cow of publishing, and the Heated Rivalry effect The short erotic story “Female Nude, Reclining,” and why a man apologizing for misogyny is crazy hot Bothered Stories’ editorial standards: writing in the awkward moments and tagging content up front Erotica as a gentle way to come back into your body after trauma Celebrating male pleasure, from a super sexy flower-petal bath scene to the shame we heap on men who masturbate Being a mom, a CEO and a polyamorous slut at the same time, and the Feeld selfie that taught her to stop compartmentalizing How patriarchy pressures us to lock our sexual selves behind closed doors, and why those doors need to stay open FOLLOW ALLISON: Two-week free trial of Bothered Stories: https://www.botheredstories.com/pricing-plans/list Website: https://www.botheredstories.com Podcast (Smut Talks): https://www.botheredstories.com/podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BotheredStories Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/botheredstories/ SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Share this episode with someone who needs a little sexy inspiration, and all the men you know who want to learn how to be amazing in bed. xoxo, Samia

Jennifer Kaylo is on husband #3 after having a sexual awakening while married to husband #2, all while co-parenting her two kids with husband #1. She hosts the Open Bedroom Podcast, where she talks candidly about sex, life, dungeons, threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes. When I was on her show recently, she told me about a Thanksgiving dinner she threw with her husband that turned into an orgy. Talk about a horn o'plenty! Even though Jen's outlook on sex and love is fun and adventurous AS HELL, she also knows how to navigate her relationships with clarity and compassion. You'll be shocked at the revelation she shares at the end of the episode. In this episode: Growing up a Catholic schoolgirl, then landing in a hardcore independent Baptist school where a pastor told her that Satan loved her short, red hair Having unexpectedly great, orgasmic sex as a teenager, and the wise pastor who told her and her boyfriend NOT to get married Marriage number one: a decade with a man who was never really present, what the sex actually looked like, and the past-life regression that cracked the whole thing open The spiritual lesson she took from that regression, and how it reframed her entire relationship history Marriage number two: eight years of "safe," scheduled, disconnected sex, and the moment she realized she didn't want to die having had sex in only two positions Trying to find a sex-positive therapist in a deeply conservative area (and the "crazy cat lady" who finally got it) The conversation that opened her second marriage — and how fast it ended once it did Meeting husband number three on Tinder, the rocky first date, and the three-hour reunion that reset her whole idea of sex How she told her kids that she could love more than one person — and what they actually said back The current chapter with husband three: swinging versus polyamory, a near-breakup, and where they are now What her story reveals about how differently women are allowed to want things once patriarchy stops deciding what a "good wife" is supposed to look like FOLLOW JENNIFER KAYLO & THE OPEN BEDROOM PODCAST: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-open-bedroom-podcast/id1523922106 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1EmsUcd7s9n4HNNR0LDyG5 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theopenbedroompodcast/podcasts Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/ SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the friend who thinks you have to pick one relationship style forever, and to the one who's quietly wondering if "good wife" ever meant what she thought it did. xoxo, Samia

David Carlson was a professional organizer years before they began identifying as polyamorous, but their slutty pansexual ways went back to high school. When they found an opportunity to start fighting for your right to be a slut—or poly, or ENM/CNM, or just a group of people with a tight-knit chosen family who wanna buy a damn house together—they jumped at the chance. David is now the Campaign Director for OPEN, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. You might have heard news of random cities across the US passing legislation protecting nonmonogamous folks from discrimination. That’s the work David and the team at OPEN are doing every day, and they are gaining ground. It’s an exciting time to be slutty, pinecones! NOTE: David reached out after this episode was published to make two corrections. First, the laws protecting nonmonogamous people may not be able to be applied to chosen family groups—it’s a gray area right now, and untested. Second, protections were passed in Hazel Park, MI, NOT Ferndale, MI. In this episode: Why David told their high school dates they didn’t want to be exclusive, being labeled a fuck boy, and the pushback they got from boys The delicious night David had at 18 that clued them in to being bi (and later, pan) Growing up queer in a town of 3,000 on the Oregon coast “Not terrible”: how we downplay pleasure we’ve been taught to be ashamed of Taking the crumbs: why David ended up in monogamous relationships through their twenties even after being a subversive, nonmonogamous high schooler. Omission and small lies, and the cost of managing a partner’s reactions by not telling the whole truth Relationship anarchy explained, and why ranking partners can feel so wrong The sale of a polycule’s house that got canceled at the last minute How one letter to a local DSA chapter turned into a unanimous city council vote Seattle, Portland, Olympia, Ferndale, Somerville, West Hollywood and more: where non-monogamous people are now protected Plural domestic partnerships, and how a throuple from Portland went to Somerville, MA, to get one How patriarchy made romantic relationships the only kind that demands exclusivity How feeling politically helpless can stop you from doing anything to make a difference—and how easy it can actually be to do that if you’re willing to write a letter or make a call. SUPPORT OPEN: Take OPEN’s 2026 Community Survey (open until Nov 12): https://www.open-love.org/survey Website: https://www.open-love.org Donate: https://www.open-love.org/donate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openloveorg Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/openloveorg.bsky.social Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/openloveorg FetLife: https://fetlife.com/OPENnonprofit SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to Samia's Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the ones you know who are flying under the radar…but wish they could fly free. xoxo, Samia

Isaac Cardona has a degree in accounting, a penchant for devising ambitious community service projects, a vanilla husband he calls his soulmate, and a deep desire to be flogged by his sir. He's also my very first local happy slut! Based right here in San Antonio, Texas, a place one might not expect there to be a social group for gay men who love leather. AND YET! Isaac is one of the founding members of the San Antonio Leather Men, and he's helped grow them into one of the biggest leather groups in Texas in the last four years. In this episode: The Hanky Code, decoded: what the different colors actually mean (yes, we go there) Growing up Jehovah's Witness, getting kicked out of the church at sixteen, and the uncle whose unapologetic queerness changed everything His "emancipation proclamation" coming-out story, timed down to the hour Five years estranged from his parents, and how that relationship slowly mended Meeting his husband of six years by mercilessly teasing their lovesick friends on Facebook Opening up a vanilla marriage into an ethically non-monogamous one How a now-closed dive bar became "home" and launched him into leather culture Building the San Antonio Leathermen from twelve people at a social to 75+ Winning the title Mr. Alamo City Leather and using it to fund toy drives, food drives, and an upcoming AIDS Foundation fundraiser What actually happens in his body and mind when he goes "primal" during impact play The harm-reduction rules he swears by for his more adventurous kinks Why living out loud and unashamed tends to turn people into more generous, active members of their community — a pattern Samia keeps finding, episode after episode, once patriarchy and purity culture stop running the show FOLLOW THE SAN ANTONIO LEATHERMEN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/satxleathermen/ Facebook (event calendar — socials, Kinky Carnival, gear nights): https://www.facebook.com/groups/satxleathermen/?ref=share_group_link Website: https://sanantonioleathermen.com/ Donate to the Nov 21 San Antonio AIDS Foundation fundraiser: https://www.sanantonioaids.org/donate SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the friend who thinks "kinky" and "community-minded" can't coexist, and to the one who still needs convincing that living out loud only makes the world around you better. xoxo, Samia

Taara Rose and her partner James were literally crowned Queen and King of the swinger community, but during the pandemic, Taara realized her pleasure had never been her priority. She set out to reconnect with her body, understand her own pleasure, and start advocating for it in all of her encounters. And the results...? Let's just say fire emojis abound, pinecones. And uhh, Taara got a tattoo of two pairs of scissors. 🔥✂️🔥✂️🔥 In this episode: How Taara and James started out as friends with benefits, and decided to be non-monogamous from day one of their Official Relationship Beach blowjobs under a double rainbow (yes, that really happened) What it's like to be crowned royalty at one of the biggest swinger conventions in the world The anxiety that started showing up in her body before events, how she wrote it off in the moment, and what it was actually telling her The article that got her kicked out of the swinger community How Taara's whole life changed when she trained to become a certified somatic sex educator The moment she realized her own pleasure had never been her priority Decentering orgasms and finding pleasure in coffee, dog walks, and sexy trees Negotiating a scene weeks in advance, and what two full weeks of aftercare looks like Going from swinging together to polyamory apart, and how James feels about it The Wheel of Consent, and why "thank you for your no" is part of it Why patriarchy has all of us—women and men—performing in bed instead of feeling anything WORK WITH TAARA ROSE: Website: https://sexedforthemodernbed.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexedforthemodernbed Email: [email protected] SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the friend who keeps saying yes when they want to say no, and to the one who thinks "listen to your body" sounds too woo-woo. xoxo, Samia