Why Do People Keep Choosing The Wrong Partners? - Lyn Smith & Jena Jake

Lyn is joined by compatibility strategist Jena Jake to uncover why so many people find themselves repeatedly drawn to the wrong romantic partners. Diving deep into the psychology of attachment, Jena reveals how subconscious wiring leads individuals to mistake the familiarity of past trauma for genuine connection and explains why establishing clear personal boundaries—using her signature "velvet rope" and "PAWS" frameworks—is essential to reclaiming self-worth KEY TAKEAWAYS People repeatedly choose incompatible partners because the subconscious mind naturally seeks what is familiar rather than what is genuinely healthy. Healthy boundaries serve as a self-protective "velvet rope" that prevents self-abandonment and teaches others how to treat you. Romantic partners are not meant to heal past wounds or complete you; genuine fulfillment starts with self-love and internal wholeness. Through neuroplasticity and mindful self-talk, you can rewire old behavioral patterns to align your energy with the type of relationship you truly deserve BEST MOMENTS "It's not about getting someone, it's about becoming someone or being someone." "You are wired to choose what is familiar to you, what you are attached to, which a lot of the time is not what is good for you." "No is a complete sentence and when you're more worried about hurting their feelings than you are self-abandoning, that's where the work is." "You're only going to attract someone as healthy as you are." ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/