5 Tough Lessons I've learned in Marriage & Raising Good Men with Shaunti Feldhahn | 314 | Christian Family, Christian Marriage, Christian Parenting

I'm flipping the microphone around today! I recently had the privilege of being interviewed by bestselling author and relationship researcher Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband, Jeff, on their podcast I Wish You Could Hear This. And we're getting REAL about marriage, raising four boys, and what I've learned about understanding the men in my life! Have you ever felt like your husband speaks an entirely different language? Or wondered why your teenage son suddenly shuts down when you're just trying to help? What if some of the very things we're doing out of love are actually making it harder for the men in our lives to open up? As a wife of over 20 years, mom of four boys, and a woman in ministry leadership, I've learned some of these lessons the HARD way. And in this conversation, I'm sharing some pretty vulnerable pieces of my own marriage journey, including why staying married was one of the hardest things I've ever done. In this episode, we're talking about: Why men shut down: How our well-intentioned questions and conversations can sometimes trigger defensiveness in our husbands and sons. Raising emotionally healthy boys: What I'm intentionally teaching my four sons about understanding women, expressing emotions, and becoming godly men. The teenage communication mistake I didn't realize I was making: One comment from my son made me rethink how I respond when my boys open up. Being a strong woman in marriage: How I've learned to honor the differences between men and women without diminishing who God created me to be. Healthy boundaries in Christian marriage: Why learning to establish boundaries was essential to my own emotional healing. Two simple phrases that changed our family conversations: Including one that helps us interrupt conflict and remember we're on the same team! One of my favorite parts of this conversation is how raising my boys actually challenged me to become a better wife. I realized I was teaching my sons to understand and care for the hearts of women, while struggling to extend that same intentional understanding to my own husband. Ouch! 😅 And wait until you hear the hilarious thing my boys noticed about how their dad talks to Siri... and what they started saying to him because of it! Whether you're raising sons, navigating a difficult season in marriage, or simply wanting healthier communication in your home, I think you'll find some practical takeaways in this conversation. Hit play, friend! We're talking about what it looks like to love the men in our lives well while also creating relationships where everyone feels heard, respected, and emotionally safe. CONNECT WITH JENILEE: Website: https://javawithjenpodcast.com ABOUT SHAUNTI & JEFF FELDHAHN: Shaunti Feldhahn is a bestselling author and relationship researcher known for helping men and women better understand one another. Alongside her husband Jeff, she hosts I Wish You Could Hear This, sharing research-based insights and practical conversations about marriage and relationships. Note: This conversation includes discussion of difficult marriage experiences and healthy boundaries. Remaining in an abusive relationship is not being encouraged.