Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Sex is never just about sex. That's why simple conversations about it can bring up shame, rejection, past wounds, and seriously different expectations. In this classic Java with Juli conversation with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, he and Juli talk about why couples need more than a shared bedroom—they need a shared language. You'll learn how to: • Talk about sex when it feels awkward • Create words that feel safe and meaningful to both of you • Know what to do when a word or request becomes triggering Listen in now! (Even better—grab your spouse and listen together!) Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau Follow-up Resources: Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Doug Rosenau

What if the question your teenager is asking isn't really the question they need you to answer? This week, we're talking with Val O'Brien of the 10,000 Questions Project about what she's learned from collecting thousands of questions from teens. And here's the surprising part: some of the hardest questions about sex and God are really questions about pain. Instead of jumping straight to an answer, what would happen if we got curious? Asked another question? Sometimes the most important thing a teen needs isn't more information. It's to know, "Do you still love me? Do you see me? Can I tell you the truth?" Guests: Val O'Brien, Hannah Nitz Follow-up Resources: The 10,000 Questions Project Sex & the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery (updated & expanded edition) Follow Val O'Brien at @_val_obrien_ Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

What happens when a pastor has no accountability? Or when scripture is used to justify sexual abuse within marraige? When mental health problems are overlooked? Netflix's Death of the Pastor's Wife raises some hard questions—and they're questions the church can't afford to shy away from. So we're talking about them. Co-host: Hannah Nitz Follow-up Resources: Ep. #319: Is Good Sex a "Right" in Marriage? Video Q&A: We Have Sex Regularly But My Spouse Isn't Satisfied. What Do I Do? Video Q&A: Is It My Responsibility to Meet My Spouse's Needs? A Church Called Tov by Scot McKnight & Laura Barringer Find a Christian Counselor MyCounselor.Online The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE, or you can text START to 88788 Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

We're taking a break for Labor Day Weekend and we hope you'll get some rest too. In the meantime, check out these popular episodes from this year: #595 4 Lies We Believe About Sex #603 5 Ways to Navigate Differences & Build a Stronger Marriage #612 How Your Story Shapes the Way You Approach Sex & Intimacy We'll be back right here next week. See you then!

We all do it—the little "tests" we give our spouses without ever telling them they're being tested. Will he notice? Will she remember? Does he even see me? Does she even care? Maybe it's the party we planned, the extra hours we put in at work, or that new haircut or dress we're hoping they'll notice. We put in the effort…and then quietly wait to see if they pass the test. And when they don't? Well, let's just say it doesn't always go the way we hoped. So why do we do this? And is there a better way to get the connection and attention we're really longing for? Grab your Java and join us for the conversation. Co-host: Hannah Nitz We want to hear from you! Did you enjoy this conversation? Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app. Follow-up Resources: Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery What's It Like to Be Married to Me? And Other Dangerous Questions by Linda Dillow Blog: Did He Pass the Test? by Juli Slattery Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy