38. Triggered: How to Regulate Yourself Before You React (ASD, Trauma, Legal Abuse, Post-Separation Abuse & Narcissistic Abuse, Autism) | Inner Stability, Season 3

You do not need to solve the problem while your nervous system is reacting to it.   38. Triggered: How to Regulate Yourself Before You React (ASD, Trauma, Legal Abuse, Post-Separation Abuse & Narcissistic Abuse) | Inner Stability, Season 3 You know the feeling. A message comes in. An accusation is made. Your co-parent changes the plan. A lawyer sends an email. Something happens that immediately sends your nervous system into overdrive — and suddenly, dealing with it feels urgent. You may understand narcissistic abuse. You may have done enormous amounts of trauma recovery. You may even be emotionally detached from the person who once had tremendous power over you. You may understand your autism full well. And you can still get triggered. So what do you actually do in the moment? Welcome back to Season 3 of Light in the Battle : Inner Stability, where we explore what it takes for autistic women to build stability while navigating trauma, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, legal abuse and high-conflict co-parenting. In this episode, we're moving from understanding the autistic nervous system to working with it when activation is already happening. We explore: What to do when you've been triggered by a high-conflict interaction Acute nervous system regulation for autistic women Why urgency can be dangerous when you're dealing with narcissistic abuse Regulating before responding to provocative emails, texts or legal communication Autism-friendly regulation when traditional calming techniques don't work for you Separating the nervous-system reaction from the problem you actually need to solve Creating enough space between a trigger and your response to make deliberate decisions Because responding and reacting are not the same thing. And when you're navigating adult autism, high-conflict co-parenting, family court, legal abuse or post-separation abuse, that distinction can matter enormously. This episode is about what happens in that space between “I've been triggered” and “Now I have to decide what I'm going to do.” Follow Light in the Battle for more on autism and narcissistic abuse, ASD and trauma, autistic burnout, nervous system regulation, emotional detachment, legal abuse, post-separation abuse, family court and high-conflict co-parenting. Light in the Battle is based on lived experience and is not medical, psychological or legal advice. Please work with qualified professionals for your individual circumstances. Until the fog starts to lift, take it one day at a time.