Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

You love your dad. He did his best. So why are you still desperately trying to prove you're good enough? Why do you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners? Why can't you stop fixing everyone else's problems? And why does being the person who "has it all together" feel so damn exhausting? What if the patterns ruining your peace today started with a wound you didn't even know you had? I'm joined by psychotherapist and bestselling author Terri Cole to unpack the truth about "daddy issues," the invisible father wound, and how childhood experiences can quietly shape your self-worth, relationships, and ability to receive love. And trust me, this conversation got personal. In this episode, you'll learn: The surprising signs of daddy issues you might be mistaking for personality traits. Why even loving, well-intentioned fathers can leave emotional wounds. How your childhood may be driving your people-pleasing, perfectionism, and compulsive fixing. Why you keep falling for emotionally unavailable people and mistaking familiarity for chemistry. How to start healing your father wound, reclaim your worth, and finally stop walking on eggshells. Here's what I want you to know: You don't have to keep living out patterns you never consciously chose. If you're ready to understand what's keeping you stuck and finally start changing it, my team of therapist-coaches can help. Book a free consultation to take the first step toward healing your father wound, reclaiming your self-worth, and creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify — Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Sequencing.com — Discover what your DNA can reveal about your health with clinical-grade whole genome sequencing that reads 100% of your DNA. Get 10% off with promo code LHS at Sequencing.com Ritual — Hormone-free support made for the perimenopause years. Get 25% off your first order at Ritual.com/LHS Tin Can — A screen-free phone that gives kids more freedom to talk to friends, with parental controls built in. Get $10 off your first order at tincan.com/LHS Vinted — A secondhand marketplace app that makes it simple to sell clothes you no longer wear and earn extra cash. The app is free to download, and with no seller fees, you keep what you earn.

They love you. So why does it feel like their job gets the best of them, and you get whatever is left? Maybe you're always waiting for them to come home. Maybe you've stopped asking for more because they're so busy. Or maybe you're the one saying, “I'm sorry, but I have to work.” Again. In this episode, I’m talking with Growing Self couples therapist Silas Hendrich, LMFT, about what happens when a career becomes the third in your relationship, and how to find your way back to each other. You’ll learn: Why high achievers can become more attached to work when things at home get harder Why the partner at home eventually stops asking for what they need How resentment quietly replaces connection The boundaries that can start rebuilding trust Small ways to reconnect, even when work isn’t slowing down Nobody has to be the villain for your relationship to be in trouble. You can both be doing your best and still wake up one day feeling more like roommates than partners. The good news? You don’t have to wait for the job to change, the busy season to end, or life to magically calm down. Small, intentional changes can start rebuilding warmth, trust, and connection now. If work has been coming between you, book a free consultation with Silas. He can help you understand what’s keeping you stuck and start finding your way back to each other. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify — Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Sequencing.com — Discover what your DNA can reveal about your health with clinical-grade whole genome sequencing that reads 100% of your DNA. Get 10% off with promo code LHS at Sequencing.com Ritual — Hormone-free support made for the perimenopause years. Get 25% off your first order at Ritual.com/LHS Tin Can — A screen-free phone that gives kids more freedom to talk to friends, with parental controls built in. Get $10 off your first order at tincan.com/LHS Vinted — A secondhand marketplace app that makes it simple to sell clothes you no longer wear and earn extra cash. The app is free to download, and with no seller fees, you keep what you earn.

“I need space.” Three words. And suddenly you’re wondering if your relationship is over. Are they coming back? Did I do something wrong? Should I give them space or fight for us? Is this actually a breakup and they just don’t have the courage to say it? That uncertainty can be excruciating. Because “I need space” can mean I need 20 minutes to calm down. It can mean I don’t know if I want this relationship anymore. And sometimes, it really does mean goodbye. In this episode, marriage and family therapist and Growing Self clinician Jennifer Cunningham is helping you figure out which one you’re dealing with and what to do next. You’ll learn: How to tell a healthy pause from serious emotional withdrawal What not to do when your partner starts pulling away When taking a break can actually save a relationship The warning signs that “space” may really mean a breakup The question to ask when you’re done living in limbo You deserve clarity, not emotional purgatory. If your partner is pulling away and you don’t know what it means for your relationship, book a free consultation with Jennifer. She can help you understand what’s happening, what you want, and whether there’s a path forward. Xoxo,Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify — Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Sequencing.com — Discover what your DNA can reveal about your health with clinical-grade whole genome sequencing that reads 100% of your DNA. Get 10% off with promo code LHS at Sequencing.com Ritual — Hormone-free support made for the perimenopause years. Get 25% off your first order at Ritual.com/LHS

Here’s the brutal truth about making friends as an adult: nobody is coming to find you. You want more friends. You want people who really know you, people you can call, people you actually want to spend time with. You just don’t want to go through the awkward, exhausting process of making them. And maybe somewhere along the way, you started wondering: Is something wrong with me? Am I too introverted? Too awkward? Too weird? Nope. But there is an uncomfortable truth: your future best friends probably aren’t going to magically show up at your house. Making friends requires action. The good news? You do not need to become an extrovert, work the room, or reinvent your personality. I’m joined by psychologist and marriage and family therapist Dr. Suzanne Wallach to unpack why adult friendship has gotten so hard and what actually works when you’re lonely, out of practice, or just really tired. You’ll learn: Why making friends as an adult feels so freaking hard Where adults actually meet people they might want to be friends with What to do when you want friends but dread the effort How introverts can build close friendships without pretending to be extroverts Why being comfortable alone can actually help you build better relationships Because you do not need 100 friends. You need a few good ones. And you don’t need to be less weird. You need to find your specific genre of weirdo. And if you’re realizing there’s a gap between the social life you have and the one you want, you don’t have to figure out how to close it alone. At Growing Self, our therapists and coaches help people create stronger relationships, build confidence, and make meaningful changes in every area of their lives. Book your free consultation and get matched with the right expert for you. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify — Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at⁠ shopify.com/lhs⁠ Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at⁠ ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/lhs⁠⁠ Sequencing.com — Discover what your DNA can reveal about your health with clinical-grade whole genome sequencing that reads 100% of your DNA. Get 10% off with promo code LHS at ⁠Sequencing.com⁠ Ritual — Hormone-free support made for the perimenopause years. Get 25% off your first order at Ritual.com/LHS

A bad strategy can trick you into giving up on the right dream. The problem isn’t what you want… it’s how you’re trying to get it. Turns out, there's a totally different way of planning your life that's going to get you going to get you further faster. My guest Courtney De Ronde dropped a line in this conversation that stopped me cold: “We give up on our vision instead of shifting our strategy.” You may not have the wrong dream. You may just be taking the wrong road to get there. In this episode, we’re breaking down why smart, motivated people get stuck and how to build a life plan that actually moves you forward. You’ll learn: Why trying harder may actually keep you stuck The difference between your vision and your strategy How to turn a big dream into something you can actually do this week Whether you’re a visionary or a doer, and how each gets derailed How to know when it’s time to change course instead of giving up Why the thing you keep calling a “discipline problem” might actually be a support problem Courtney's framework moves from a long-term vision to a realistic annual milestone and finally into the days, weeks, and quarters where progress actually happens. Before you decide the dream isn’t going to happen, make sure you’re not just stuck on the wrong road. Take the free “What’s Holding You Back?” quiz to figure out where you’re getting stuck. And if you’re ready for support creating a different path forward, schedule a free consultation with a coach at Growing Self. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify — Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Sequencing.com — Discover what your DNA can reveal about your health with clinical-grade whole genome sequencing that reads 100% of your DNA. Get 10% off with promo code LHS at Sequencing.com Ritual — Hormone-free support made for the perimenopause years. Get 25% off your first order at Ritual.com/LHS