Emotional Intelligence

What does it actually take to become more emotionally intelligent? In this episode, Brielle and Michael share how they each work on it day to day: journaling, check-ins, getting curious instead of reactive, and changing the beliefs underneath our emotions. We're not perfect, and we're not experts. This is what's working for us. 00:00 Welcome back to the Ma-Honeys 01:09 Today's topic: emotional intelligence 02:05 Why affirmations alone don't work (the thermostat analogy) 03:12 Taking feedback and growing up emotionally 04:41 Music as a metaphor for the mind 06:09 Brielle's routine: journaling and asking herself questions 09:58 Autopilot, and setting check-in timers 13:30 "Emotions validate what you believe, not what's true" 14:50 Shadow work: whose voice is that? 16:09 Useful and resourceful vs. right and wrong 17:02 Why the best athletes stay calm 18:05 Getting triggered: pause, get curious, respond 20:20 How we handle disagreements in our marriage 21:06 The cost of holding grudges 25:15 Emotions and the body 27:08 Why kids should be taught emotional intelligence 28:25 You can't breathe your way into a new belief 29:37 How do you change a belief? Step by step 34:57 Core beliefs and confirmation bias 37:05 Why coaching and being pushed helps you grow 39:13 A message for anyone going through a hard time 41:36 Brielle on changing her beliefs during a hard season 42:56 Man's Search for Meaning and the power of faith 44:40 Wrap-up Books mentioned: When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté You Are the Placebo by Dr. Joe Dispenza Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a five-star review, and share it with a friend. Send us your comments, questions, or topics you'd like us to cover! CONNECT WITH US The Ma-Honeys: @ma_honeys.podcast Michael: @the.michaelmahoney Brielle: @brielle_colleen @brielle.colleen.music