Self-Trust: How to Stop Looking Outside Yourself for Answers—Toni LaMotta | Ep 15

What if some of the decisions you make today are still being controlled by promises you unknowingly made as a child? After spending 16 years in a convent under a vow of obedience, spiritual coach Toni LaMotta eventually realized how deeply she had learned to look outside herself for answers. She had been taught to trust authority rather than her own knowing—and years later, she began the journey of learning to trust herself again. But Toni discovered something even bigger: You don't have to enter a convent to take a vow. We can quietly make vows such as I have to be perfect, I need to be needed, I can't be vulnerable, or I have to keep everyone happy. These beliefs can become unconscious rules for how we live, love, work and make decisions. In this episode of Magnify Your Magnificence, Sue Paulson talks with Toni LaMotta, spiritual coach, Inner Compass Coach, internationally acclaimed speaker, accredited International Enneagram professional and Master Quantum Living Coach, about recognizing those hidden vows and reconnecting with the wisdom already inside you. You'll also discover Toni's simple 7-minute presence practice for reconnecting your body, heart and mind; how to distinguish your inner knowing from fear and outside expectations; why transformation requires more than collecting information; and what it means to develop what Toni calls ground trust. Subscribe to The Magnify With Sue Newsletter Want to continue the journey beyond the podcast? Each week, Sue shares reflections, practical tools and encouragement to help you move from self-doubt to self-love, from fear to inner peace, and from hiding to expressing your magnificence. Join the newsletter here: https://magnifywithsue.com Connect with Toni LaMotta Join Toni's free The Courage to Trust Yourself experience: https://pathstotransformation.com/trustyourself Chapters 00:00 Why Toni Stopped Trusting Herself 01:00 Welcome to Magnify Your Magnificence 01:46 Meet Toni LaMotta 02:14 Becoming the Inner Compass Coach 03:35 16 Years in a Convent and the Vow of Obedience 04:15 Learning to Question Outside Authority 06:04 The Unconscious Vows We Make as Children 06:24 How the Enneagram Explains Our Patterns 07:15 The Vow to Be Perfect 07:41 The Hidden Vows Behind Our Personalities 08:21 Finding the Gift Behind Every Pattern 09:32 Growth, Pain and the Enneagram 10:32 How Self-Awareness Changes Relationships 11:55 Sue's Childhood Vow to Make Herself Smaller 13:20 Finding the Gift Inside Difficult Experiences 13:35 Why Toni Simplified Her Work 14:17 Learning From People Who See Life Differently 15:20 We Only See Part of the World 15:41 Learning to Trust Your Own Lens 16:59 Conditioned Trust vs. Ground Trust 17:51 "Whatever Happens, I Can Handle It" 18:16 Learning to Listen to Your Body 20:05 Toni's 7-Minute Daily Presence Practice 20:49 Step 1: Two Minutes in the Body 21:51 Step 2: Two Minutes in the Heart 22:45 Step 3: Two Minutes in the Head 23:03 Bringing Body, Heart and Mind Together 24:45 Making the Practice Part of Your Morning 26:37 What Is Your Inner Compass? 27:09 Why Information Alone Doesn't Create Transformation 28:25 Moving From Fear to Faith 29:29 The Three Voices Inside You 30:17 Recognizing the Voice of Society 30:47 Hearing the Still, Small Voice Within 31:30 Using Journaling to Discover Your Own Wisdom 32:10 Why Your Triggers Aren't Really About Other People 33:17 Visualization vs. Visioning 33:41 Learning to Follow Your Inner Compass 34:39 Why Inner Guidance Doesn't Always Tell You What You Want 36:55 Information vs. Change vs. Transformation 38:22 How We Change as We Grow 39:33 Recognizing Truth Through Your Body 40:11 Life Is Happening for You, Not to You 40:35 Finding the Gift Even in Difficult Experiences 40:58 Toni's Free Courage to Trust Yourself Experience 41:51 Sue's Closing Reflection 42:36 Continue Your Magnificence Journey