Penetration with Presence with Graeme Waterfield

In this episode, Graeme and I talk about penetration, specifically penis-vagina penetration with all its cultural and personal histories. When we think of improving penetration, we think of trying new positions. We never consider other ways to explore. We go deep into what becomes possible when we bring real, embodied presence to penetration instead of rushing towards a goal. In this episode we explore: How most of us learned penetration as a mechanical act, not an intimate oneWhy letting go of the script and be uncomfortable and how to navigate those moments Checking in before penetration, and why this simple practice can be so healing How childhood wounding and old conditioning can show up in intimacy and how we've learned to navigate that together The Taoist concept of "the way" - learning to listen and move with what's actually happening, rather than following a script How to practice presence in the everyday Conscious penetration as a healing pathway through peri / menopause Why arousal doesn't have to come first and how willingness and openness can be a doorway into intimacy The Making Love scissors position How to play with subtlety How penetration can be a practice Why women not orgasming through penetration says more about the style of sex we've learned than anything being ‘wrong’ with them Passion as fire and how it becomes a life-giving force Checkout two other podcast episodes mentioned in this one: Episode 61 on sex and menopause Episode 68 on the pleasure of planned intimacy If this piques your curiosity, join us for our Making Love Retreat for couples in Devon in October - a full week dedicated to exactly what we talk about in this episode, through embodiment practices, teaching, and practice time. There is space left for two couples. You can find out more here: https://sarahrosebright.com/making-love-retreats/ Graeme Waterfield is a men’s coach who guides men into deeper presence, embodiment, and self-awareness. His sexual energy mastery training, blends meditation, Taoist principles, and nervous system awareness to transform sexual energy into love, vitality, and consciousness. Moving away from performance and intensity, his work emphasises relaxation, heart connection, and integrating sexuality into everyday life, helping men deepen intimacy, authenticity, and inner ease. Graeme and Sarah teach The Making Love Retreat®. Together they guide couples into deeper dimensions of intimacy, lovemaking, and conscious connection. RESOURCES FROM GRAEME To explore Graeme's work in meditation, embodiment and sexual energy mastery for men, including courses, coaching, retreats and teachings, visit: https://www.graemewaterfield.com Graeme’s Sexual Energy Mastery Training for men - a training for men exploring meditation, embodied awareness and the deeper potential of sexual energy as a pathway into embodiment. This course starts April 14th, 2026 (though you can join up to April 21st). You can also find Graeme on Facebook. RESOURCES FROM SARAH The Making Love Retreat for Couples, 12th - 18th October, 2026 For free gifts for women and couples and to explore Sarah's work - including private coaching, group programmes, courses, retreats and her podcast - visit www.sarahrosebright.com ABOUT YOUR HOST Sarah Rose Bright is an Erotic Embodiment and Intimacy Guide, authorised teacher of The Making Love Retreat®, and host of Making Love, a podcast on the evolution of love, sex, and relationships. She guides women and committed couples who feel stuck and unfulfilled in their intimate lives - and know this is the missing piece. Women come home to their bodies, awaken their desire, and reclaim their power. Couples create an erotic life of depth, passion, and love. Find out more: https://sarahrosebright.com/ MUSIC: Trust and Surrender by Ayla Schafer. You can explore more of her beautiful music here - https://www.aylaschafer.co.uk/