6: Why Are We Attracted to People or Situations That Aren’t Good for Us?

You can name every red flag, and you’ve talked them through with a friend, and you still keep going back to the same unhealthy relationship patterns. This episode is for you if knowing what to do but not doing it frustrates you, and you want a way to respond to the pull without waiting for it to disappear. I open with Jamie Miller’s “Babydoll,” the song my friend said was about my love life, and the relationship that proved her right. Drawing on more than 20 years as a therapist, I explain why chemistry in relationships can be nervous system activation in disguise and why familiar feels compelling. Then I cover how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy helps with emotional impulses and how to start setting boundaries in dating before you’re invested, with a practice to try this week. Listen if you’re drawn to an emotionally unavailable partner, or if you can’t stop overworking or people-pleasing even though you know better. Check out the show notes and other resources at https://thetempestagroup.com/unhealthy-relationship-patterns Send me a message! Let's stay connected Find me on Instagram at @tempestatalk Check out resources at: https://thetempestagroup.com/resources/ This podcast is brought to you in partnership with Leah Bryant Co.