Love Lies & Alibis Quick Hits: Child Support Isn’t a Come-Up: Let’s Talk About What It Actually Is

Child support has somehow become one of the internet’s favorite gender wars, but how much of what we hear is actually true? This week on Love, Lies & Alibis, we’re putting the viral posts, Facebook law degrees, and tired “she just wants his money” arguments to the side and looking at the facts. What is child support actually for? What does it really cost to raise a child in 2026? Does 50/50 parenting automatically mean no child support? Can you stop paying if the other parent keeps your child from you? And if child support helps pay the rent, utilities, groceries, or transportation...is that really “misusing” the money? I’m also sharing my own experience receiving just $197 a month, breaking down what that amount actually covered, and discussing the reality that some parents receive even less or nothing at all. And because this conversation deserves nuance, we’re also talking about legitimate problems within the child-support system, parents who truly cannot afford their current orders, custodial fathers, mothers who owe support, and why custody, parenting time, and child support are separate issues. This isn’t men vs. women. It’s not custodial vs. noncustodial parents. It’s about one simple question: When two people create a child, why should the responsibility of financially supporting that child fall on only one of them? Let’s stop arguing from memes and start talking facts. Real love. Real lies. Zero alibis. 🩷🎙️