What ACTUALLY Overcomes Victim Mentality

Send us Fan Mail A 1:1 coaching client recently said one of the most transformational parts of our work together is that I validated painful things she'd experienced that other people had minimized, dismissed, or told her to get over. For years, when she expressed her feelings, needs, or struggles, people she loved responded by criticizing her for having a “victim mentality.” Now, having someone acknowledge her felt experience is what allowed her to STOP living like a victim. Most people think “victim mentality” is complaining or blaming everyone else for their problems. In this episode, I reveal five much more sneaky ways it shows up. In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden ways victim mentality gets wired into your nervous system…and why trying to “get over it” is the surest way to stay stuck and disempowered.   BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Why feeling validated is the first step to overcoming victimhood How being told your emotions or needs are wrong makes you disconnect from yourself Why incredibly capable, high achieving women often feel powerless underneath it all How victim mentality looks different depending on your default stress response Why acknowledging your pain is NOT about blaming anyone else How to move from helplessness toward greater agency, choice, and self-trust And more!     PRIOR EPISODES MENTIONED: Ep. 6: Martyr Mentality: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17083616 Ep. 53: The Fight, Flight, & Freeze Stress Responses: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18778797 Ep. 54: The Fawn & Fix Stress Responses: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18831735    FOR SO MUCH MORE: Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast  Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/   Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com   Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult    HOMEWORK: How much have you let victim mentality run your life? Which of the five ways has it tended to show up most for you? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!   COMING UP NEXT: Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy. Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/  Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE! CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn  Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.