0111 She Lost 3 Best Friends Then Swam Lake Tahoe | Haydee’s Story

Powerlessness can be a single sentence you learn as a kid and spend decades living out. We sit down with Haydee to talk about childhood sexual abuse, the silence that followed, and how a parent’s inability to respond can quietly shape identity, relationships, and self-worth. She shares what she needed most at the moment of disclosure, how dissociation works as survival, and why the words “I believe you” can change the trajectory of a life. We also go deep on grief and the messy reality of support. During the COVID era, Haydee loses three “friends” in one week, including her first dog and two people she loves, and she describes shutting down and crying alone rather than asking for help. From there, the story turns toward resilience and meaning-making: she chooses a Lake Tahoe open-water swim as an act of remembrance and a push toward healing, tying the miles to “21 social causes” and raising funds for issues like mental health, cancer, COVID, sexual abuse, and epilepsy. Along the way, we get specific about the logistics and psychology of long-distance swimming: training plans, coaches, cold water, darkness, and the 3 a.m. start that triggers a trauma freeze. The biggest takeaway isn’t just athletic grit, it’s the mindset shift that comes from finally reaching out and learning to say “please help me.” If you care about trauma healing, grief support, therapy, and real-world tools for rebuilding self-trust, this conversation stays with you. Subscribe for more stories like this, share the episode with someone who needs it, and leave a rating and review to help more listeners find Multispective. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Additionally, you can now also watch the full video version of your favourite episode here on YouTube. Please subscribe, like or drop a comment letting us know your thoughts on the episode and if you'd like more stories going forward! If you would like to offer any feedback on our show or get in touch with us, you can also contact us on the following platforms: Website: www.multispective.org Email: [email protected]  Instagram: www.instagram.com/multispectivepodcast  Facebook: www.facebook.com/multispectiveorg Reddit: www.reddit.com/r/multispective Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/multispective Producer & Host: Jennica Sadhwani Editing: Stephan Menzel Marketing: Lucas Phiri Fatty15 promotes healthy metabolism, balanced immunity, and heart health. 2 out of 3 customers report near-term benefits, including calmer mood, deeper sleep or less snacking, within 6 weeks. 20% off on purchases link and code: ...