144: When Remembrance Month Turns Into Guilt Month

Send Jen a Text Message October is here. Your phone is full of candles, footprints, and pink and blue ribbons before you're even out of bed. Part of you is so grateful the world is finally saying our babies out loud. And part of you wants to throw that phone across the room. If that's you, you're not ungrateful. You're a mom whose body remembers the hardest day of her life. In this episode, I talk about getting through Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month in a way that works for you, not for your feed. I share what my first October after my loss was like, why this month can quietly turn into a guilt month, and a simple way to decide ahead of time what you want October to look like. We also look past October to Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's, so you don't have to brace for impact from now until January. In this episode:  Why a month meant for moms like you can still make you feel worse, and why both things can be true at once How comparison sneaks in when everyone is posting, and the voice that says "if I really loved my baby, I'd be doing more" The three lanes for October: all in, on the sidelines, or sitting it out (and why none of them is better) The one question that helps you pick your lane Four easy ways to protect your heart on social media, without cutting anyone off Why the all-in mom should bring someone with her, and what that does for the people who love you Thought switching for the guilt that shows up at 6:58 PM on October 15th How to look ahead at the holiday season so it doesn't catch you off guard Mentioned in this episode: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month (October) Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day and the Wave of Light: October 15th, 7:00 PM in your own time zone A loving invitation: If you'd like some company through October and the months that follow, I'd love for you to come into the Always Loved Club. It's our monthly membership, a place where you can talk about your baby as much as you want and nobody flinches. Inside, there's a mini training on this exact topic, getting through October and the holiday season after loss, and you'll get access to it right away. No pressure at all. The door is open when you're ready. Join here: https://navigatingbabyloss.com/club Stay connected: Website: https://navigatingbabyloss.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/navigatingbabyloss/ Listen to this episode: https://navigatingbabyloss.com/post/october-after-stillbirth-144 Download my FREE "Guilt and Grief Release Journal" at navigatingbabyloss.com/journal WHERE TO FIND AND FOLLOW ME! Website-  https://www.navigatingbabyloss.com Tik Tok-https://www.tiktok.com/@navigatingbabyloss Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/navigatingbabyloss/ You Tube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz-2MCEY5PRiF6p6VB_2lxA