The Biggest Mistake People Make When Setting Boundaries

Send us Fan Mail Think boundaries are all about finding the perfect script? Nope. One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is believing boundaries are supposed to make other people change. That's not a boundary—that's a wish. If you've ever overexplained yourself, felt guilty after saying no, or wondered why your boundaries "never work," this episode is for you. I'm breaking down why people-pleasers struggle so much with boundaries, what healthy boundaries actually look like, and the mindset shift that changed everything for me and my clients. If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, chances are you learned to prioritize everyone else's feelings over your own. Today, we're putting an end to that. In this episode we'll cover:  Why your boundaries keep failing   The difference between boundaries and requests   Why overexplaining is usually anxiety in disguise   How to set boundaries without trying to control other people   The one question you should ask yourself before every boundary  If this episode helped you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to stop people-pleasing and start choosing themselves. Support the show 🖤 If this episode made you feel seen, I've got a lot more where that came from. ✨ Follow me on Instagram @the_spicyshrink for daily no-BS mental health content. ✨ Grab my FREE Family Survival Roles Quiz to discover the survival role you learned growing up. ✨ Ready to stop understanding your family and start responding differently? Check out The Dysfunctional Family Playbook and all my resources at stan.store/kaylareilly. See you next week, friend. 💛