On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Do you want to live a more intentional life and unlock your creative spark?

Do you want to learn how to avoid feeling burnout?

Today, Kelly Wearsler joins us on the podcast to teach us how to create an environment that makes you happy, how to understand your own worth when creating a business, and how to train your own eye in order to improve your own home design. 

Kelly is a multi-faceted and award-winning creator of experiential residential, hospitality, commercial and retail environments, expansive collections of lifestyle products and thought-provoking brand collaborations. Her designs have redefined the design industry and influenced the rise of designer hotels and experiences. She is best known for her eclectic and maximalist designs that tell a story. Some of her clients include Gwen Stefani and Cameron Diaz

Today we get to learn about Kelly in a deeper way. She takes us through her own journey of self discovery, starting her business from the ground up, and the moment that her mind changed on her most valued creation to date, her family. 

Throughout our conversation, we explore the significance of designing spaces that evoke meaningful emotions. We also discuss strategies for ways to prevent burnout when juggling multiple projects.

Join us as we chat through living intentionally by using your environment to do so. You will love this episode if you are looking to make a change in your space! 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 01:40 Can the art of designing make people happy?
• 03:22 “People want to see and experience something they haven’t seen before.”
• 04:53 Design is a combination of an old soul and a new spirit
• 10:31 How to stay open-minded for new ideas and not get lost in what is trending
• 12:20 Kelly shares how taking photos can help you find new patterns and styles
• 16:42 Curiosity is a driver in pursuing your passion
• 18:59 Take your time to find things that have meaning and connection to you
• 21:19 Jay explains the meaning behind the art pieces in his studio
• 22:51 The deep rooted interest in art and design
• 26:38 Kelly talks about her first project in Venice Beach 
• 29:50 Then and now, concept presentations can be challenging
• 32:51 What was the most difficult part about starting your career?
• 35:29 Mistakes are important in any creative process
• 34:06 One of the projects that helped shift Kelly’s career
• 41:02 Let’s take a look at some of the best art projects in Kelly’s book
• 42:44 Do you need to spend big to create your own space?
• 44:50 Make do of what you’ve seen or have and make it interesting
• 48:13 “Give people an experience they can take an incredible memory with.”
• 49:34 How to incorporate plants when designing a place
• 50:33 Inspired by a home Kelly visited in Malibu
• 52:52 Being a mother is one of the most transformational experience for women
• 55:11 How do you stay present in your work and when with family?
• 56:25 “Creativity is your soul while replication is looking outward.”
• 57:34 To avoid burnout, saying no is just as important as saying yes
• 01:00:58 Transforming dreams into realistic art designs
• 01:02:55 How can artists appropriately price the worth of their work
• 01:08:05 Kelly Wearstler on Final Five  

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Do you like spending time alone or by yourself?

How does alone time help clear your mind and fuel positive thoughts?

Today, I am excited to share a conversation I had with Tom Bilyeu in his podcast, Impact Theory, where he interviews me about my profound journey through solitude, relationships, and self-love.

We kick things off by shedding light on the wisdom found in ancient texts like the Vedas, which many monks study in solitude. It's a reminder that spending time alone is not a sign of weakness; in fact, it can be a powerful tool for personal growth. I share the incredible benefits of allocating just one hour a week to being alone with your thoughts, a practice that can transform your life.

As we venture further into this enlightening conversation, we discuss the importance of dealing with life's challenges, share insights on daily meditation, and the complexities of loneliness and why it's essential to feel seen, heard, and understood in our relationships. With heartfelt anecdotes and wisdom, we explore the concept of love, self-worth, and the hard work required for genuine, lasting relationships.

In this interview, you’ll learn:

• How to be comfortable with being alone
• How to sit with your inner thoughts 
• How to prepare for love
• The tips to finding true love
• How to make relationships last
• The impotence valuing self-worth
• How to build lasting trust on others
• How to maintain a successful marriage

Remember, relationships are just one part of our life's journey, and it's up to us to make it a meaningful and fulfilling one. Let’s navigate the complexities of life and relationships with wisdom and love.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:35 Jay explains the vedas that most monks study in solitude
• 03:34 Loneliness is not the enemy while being alone is not a weakness
• 08:12 The benefits of allocating an hour a week to alone time
• 14:12 “This bad thing happened, and now what?”
• 17:31 Daily meditation has varying positive effects on people
• 18:47 Why do people struggle with being alone with their thoughts?
• 23:51 Allow yourself to have positive distractions and random thoughts
• 27:44 Loneliness is when you don’t feel seen, heard, or understood
• 30:46 How do you prepare for love?
• 34:01 Jay shares an unrecorded interview with his mom
• 35:32 “When you’ve experienced your strength, no one can make you feel weak.”
• 37:35 Why you should not turn to others to validate your self worth
• 38:59 Can doing hard things make life easier?
• 43:11 The absence of a good role model and proper tools can lead to making bad choices
• 45:15 On parenthood: Would you intervene or allow kids to learn about themselves?
• 49:06 Top 3 things that can help develop a successful relationship
• 54:38 Why do people select the wrong partner?  
• 57:26 Jay talks about the four levels of trust we have for relationships
• 01:00:13 The desperation to be loved makes us give away trust so easily
• 01:02:20 True, genuine love takes hard work
• 01:05:01 How can you keep your marriage sacred and successful?
• 01:14:12 How to grow the relationship you’re currently in and in the right way
• 01:17:05 Jay explains the consciousness of the human soul  
• 01:19:42 A relationship isn’t everything, it is not the be-all and end-all of your journey
• 01:22:55 Would you live your life in a hypothesis?

Have you ever resented someone from keeping a secret from you?

Do you often put other people's feelings before your own?

In this incredibly vulnerable episode with Kerry Washington, we dive into the complicated nature of family and generational trauma. We learn about how both compassion and pain co-exist. We explore how to receive and react to challenging news. This episode is one that you definitely do not want to miss if you have ever dealt with navigating familial relationships and dynamics. 

Kerry Washington is an Emmy award winning, SAG & Emmy- nominated actor, producer and director, and activist. Washington received widespread recognition for her role as Olivia Pope on ABC’s hit drama Scandal.  

Today we get to see a side of Kerry that we’ve never seen or heard before. She takes us through a journey of unveiling a long guarded family secret. A secret that took her down a journey of transformation, resilience and healing. This is a story that we can all relate to in our own ways.  

If you love this episode, Kerry’s new memoir is Thicker Than Water and you can hear even more stories about how Kerry has navigated challenges of life. 

This conversation is an invitation to explore the depths of truth, the human heart and the transformative power of rewriting your own story. 

In this interview, you will learn:

• The family secret that changed her life 
• How she leaned into compassion and not anger 
• How do you share challenging news to your children or loved ones?
• How she embraced her new truth and allowed herself to take control of her narrative 
• The secret to what has allowed her to be deeply rooted 
• How we can hold space for many truths at once
• How the revelation of a truth can make way for greater and deeper love 

We invite you to join us on this deep exploration of secrets, truth, self discovery and witnessing the power of compassion and love in the presence of pain.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:15 What is a childhood memory that stands out to you?
• 09:11 Kerry describes a panic attack she had at age 7
• 12:55 “I wasn’t emotionally safe”
• 16:11 Kerry's feeling of needing to perform at a young age
• 19:15  Why has Kerry been trying to walk away from acting? 
• 26:30 How we are impacted by our dharma and how we can’t extract our dharna from ourselves 
• 30:37: “I survived a childhood where I learned what truth does not look like and so I am really aware of what it looks like now.” 
• 32:30 How can we get closer to our own personal truth? 
• 33:40: Why keeping ourselves busy = control 
• 37:30 Kerry had to redefine what success means to her
• 38:08 “Everytime I sat down to write it didn’t feel honest.”
• 38:50  **book spoiler alert - Kerry shares news that changed her life 
• 39:25 “So my parents sat me down and told me…”
• 49:25 How to move forward with love after receiving life-changing news
• 59:08 Growing up with shame 
• 01:03:36 How to have compassion over anger 
• 01:16:16 “Sometimes the truth seems so scary.”
• 01:16:36 How does a parent tell their kids life changing information? 
• 01:21:19 Bonding together as a family not a part after trauma 
• 01:26:32 How we should allow ourselves to be nurtured by love. 
• 01:32:30 Kerry Washington on Final Five 

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How many of us spend our free time on social media?

Do you find yourself becoming unproductive because of it?

Today, we will unravel the ways in which social media can subtly control our minds and lifestyles. The journey begins by acknowledging that if we don't learn to use technology consciously, it can end up consuming us entirely. Step by step, we navigate through practical strategies to regain control and create a healthier relationship with social media. 

These strategies guide us toward fostering more meaningful interactions, like detaching from devices during social gatherings, creating 'no technology' zones in our homes, and engaging in curious and vulnerable conversations with loved ones. We also learn the importance of transforming from passive consumers to active creators. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How addictive social media can be
• How to develop a healthy screen time
• How to spend your time more productively
• How to make genuine connections in person

Through these steps, we embark on a transformative journey towards mastering technology, ultimately reclaiming our presence and connection in the digital age.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:14 How does social media control your mind and your life?
• 06:57 If we don't learn how to use technology, it ends up consuming us 
• 10:42 Step #1 On social media, people talk about themselves 80% of the time
• 12:39 How can we shift into connecting with others on social media?
• 15:51 Step #2: Do activities without your phone with your friends
• 20:00 Step #3: Create a ‘no technology’ zone in your home
• 23:14 Step #4: Have more curious, vulnerable conversations with people you love
• 24:59 Step #5: Become a creator not a consumer
• 26:45 Step #6: Having alternatives is easier than setting blocks

Do you want to feel like you belong? 

Do you want to block negativity and rejection? 

In this episode we dive deep into what it means to step into your authentic self and the tools needed to do so.