But What About Their Future? (I'm more concerned about hers)

What about their future? That’s the question that keeps coming up whenever men are held accountable for sexual assault—and honestly? I’m more concerned about hers. In this episode of Open Tabs, I’m talking about the Cornell sexual assault case, victim blaming, “boy moms,” frat culture, and the exhausting expectation that women should somehow prevent men from hurting them. We talk about why being drunk, what you’re wearing, where you went, or who you trusted should never be treated as an invitation to be assaulted—and why the conversation so often becomes about protecting the future of the people who caused the harm instead of the person who has to live with it. I also get personal and talk about an experience where I unexpectedly ended up in the ER after drinking, and how lucky I was to have friends who were looking out for me. It’s a heavy one, so please take care of yourself while listening. And if you’re looking for something to watch afterward, go watch Designing Women. Julia Sugarbaker gets it.