Episode 74 - Porn, Shame & the Cycle We Get Stuck In with Josh Dale

Porn is often talked about as a behaviour — but what if, for some people, it’s actually being used as a way to cope? This week, I sit down with therapist Josh Dale to talk about the connection between porn, emotions, mental health and shame. We explore why someone might turn to porn when they're stressed, lonely, bored, anxious or overwhelmed, why it can provide temporary relief, and how that relief can become part of a cycle that keeps repeating. We also unpack the role of secrecy and shame, how problematic porn use can impact relationships and intimacy, how faith and personal values can add another layer to the conversation, and what breaking the cycle can actually look like. Plus, we talk about what partners can do when porn becomes a source of hurt or conflict, and how parents can begin having honest conversations about porn with their sons without creating shame. This isn't a conversation about judging people or telling everyone what they should believe. It's about understanding the why behind the behaviour — and what can happen when coping, shame and secrecy become a cycle. Josh's Website Follow Josh  Follow us on social media: @outisdethetherapyroompod If you're looking for a therapist and live in Ontario, feel free to visit our website here or contact us at [email protected] to work with one of our team members. If you reside outside of Ontario, a quick Google search will help you find a therapist near you!