What Our Teens Need Most From Us Parents When Things Are At Their Worst

Ask Rachel anything This episode will change how you see “bad behaviour” and might just change how you see yourself, too. In this powerful conversation, with Dr Jody Carrington, we unpack what every parent and teacher needs to know about emotional regulation – and why you’re probably doing better than you think. It fits perfectly with the lessons I've been learning as the mother of a badly injured daughter who needs me to stay strong while she gets back on her feet. You can read all about it by clicking here In this episode, we cover: What emotional regulation really isThe “flipped lid” model and the role of the prefrontal cortex Why kids don’t “lose their goodness” – they just lose access to it Why your regulation matters more than any parenting hack“If the big people aren’t okay, the little people don’t stand a chance” How our phones, watches and constant comparison are quietly dysregulating us Behavior, consequences and connectionWhy a strict rewards-and-punishments model backfires The shift from “What’s wrong with this child?” to “What happened to this child?” Repair: the real superpower in families and classroomsWhy the best predictor of lasting relationships is the capacity to repair How to apologise to your child (and your partner) in ways that actually heal Practical tools you can use todayThe phrases “Tell me more” and “What’s the hardest part?” The “collect before you direct” principle Everyday connection habits: eyes, car rides, bedtime, food, and shared interests Hope for worried, exhausted parentsWhy kids should be “worst” with you (and why that’s a good sign) The 30% rule that lets you drop the perfectionism and keep going. Dr Jody Carrington: https://www.drjodycarrington.com Support the show Please hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit.  You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message.  Please don't hesitate to seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. There's no shame in reaching out for support. When you look after yourself your entire family benefits. Find all the tips from the episode on Substack:  My email [email protected] My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact me Instagram Facebook