S5E5: I Got Everything I Wanted. So Why Do I Still Want More?

What happens when you finally get everything you wanted—and discover that you’re still allowed to want more? After waiting 13 years to become a mother, Diana believed reaching motherhood would end the wanting. But eventually, a quiet restlessness surfaced—not regret or unhappiness, but the feeling that parts of her still needed somewhere to go. In this episode, Diana explores why mothers often put their desires on trial, the difference between making decisions and feeling like the author of your life, and why wanting creativity, rest, meaningful work, friendship, or simply an hour to yourself doesn’t make you ungrateful. Maybe motherhood can be enough without having to be everything. Maybe desire isn’t a demand to change your life—it’s information about the person who is still living inside it. Inspirations and Further Reading: Richard M. Ryan and Edward L. Deci, “Self-Determination Theory and the Facilitation of Intrinsic Motivation, Social Development, and Well-Being” — the foundational framework describing autonomy, competence, and connection or relatedness as basic psychological needs. Katrijn Brenning and Bart Soenens, “A Self-Determination Theory Perspective on Postpartum Depressive Symptoms and Early Parenting Behaviors” — research examining psychological need satisfaction and frustration during the transition to motherhood. What is one thing you want more of—not because your life is lacking, but because it helps you feel more present inside it? 💌 Got something to say? We’d love to hear it! Drop us some Fan Mail here—tell us what you’re loving, share a mama moment, or just say hi! 🎧 Your words might just make it into a future episode! 💕 — Tessie & Diana 💖 Support the show Got ideas, questions, or stories to share? We’d love to hear from you! Email us at [email protected] or connect with us on Instagram @PoMCasts. Also follow our blog at www.pearlsofmotherhood.com. Stay tuned for more fun and more Pearls!