Is Your Identity, Really Your Problem?

"Not everything is an identity problem. Sometimes the things we want to work on in our identities aren't problems at all. They're just things in life we would like to do a bit better." -Melissa Sheffield Everywhere you look right now, someone is telling you to become the woman who already has what you want, step into your next level identity and transform yourself until you are unrecognisable. In this episode, I take identity back to basics: what it actually is, when it's worth working on, and when the thing you're struggling with isn't an identity problem at all. I explain why identity has become a social media buzzword, how squeezing years of subconscious and NLP work into 30 second clips skips the messy middle where the real change happens, and why advice has the potential to make things worse, depending on where you're starting from.  I walk you through the 6 NLP logical levels using the example of a self-employed woman who has left the nine to five but still feels stuck, so you can work out which level you actually need to work at. I also talk about what we are really telling ourselves when we keep hearing that we need to become unrecognisable, and why, for a lot of us, it isn't who we are that needs to change but our situation.  Finally, I invite you to decide what success means to you so you are committing your time and energy to doing the work - at whatever level- that is right for you