How to Know What You Want After a Lifetime of People-Pleasing | Monica Rodgers

Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself! Monica Rodgers grew up in a high-control religious home where questioning wasn’t allowed, and it took a divorce and a dark night of the soul that kept her in bed for almost nine months to begin what she calls her unbecoming. Wendy and Monica talk about the trance of unworthiness so many women grow up in, why we leave our bodies to survive it, and what it takes to come back. They also get into why so many women freeze when asked what they want, and what changes when women gather in circle. In this episode, they discuss: The trance of unworthiness: how Monica first noticed it in church at six years old, and why so many women end up living in their heads instead of their bodies Why “What do you want?” stops so many women in their tracks after years of people-pleasing, and how knowing what you don’t want can point you toward what you do Saying yes to the mess: treating doubt, rage, grief, and the dark stretches of reinvention as part of the path If people keep telling you you’ve changed and you’re starting to take it as a compliment, this one’s for you. Connect with Monica: Website: jointherevelation.com Instagram: instagram.com/revelationwoman LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lifeisarevelation Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-revelation-project/id1472881107 Referenced in this Episode: A Course in Miracles Links: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/acim-remind/id737568020 https://www.amazon.com/Course-Miracles-Combined-Quality/dp/1883360242?tag=syty-20 marianne.com/acim/ ________________________________________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy: Linkedin Instagram: @wendy.harrop Facebook: Phineas Wright House Website: Wendy-Harrop.com PWH Farm Stays Bespoke Journeys Interested in being a guest on the show? Send your pitch to [email protected] Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat! If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.