How to Say No in Midlife (Without the Guilt)

Why is saying no so hard for women in midlife? Your kids, your partner, your parents, your friends, your work and the school WhatsApp all want a piece of you — and because you're so capable, everyone assumes you'll say yes. This week on Self Care Club: The Midlife Edition, Nicole Goodman and Lauren Mishcon talk about why saying no might be one of the most important forms of self-care in your 40s and 50s — and how to actually do it without guilt. In this episode: Why women are conditioned to people-please — and why midlife is the moment to stop "What you tolerate, you allow": how being capable makes people assume you'll do everything The joy of JOMO — why you don't have to go to everything anymore Why a genuine no is kinder than a fake, resentful yes The simple pause that stops the automatic yes Every no is a yes to something else You don't need an excuse — how to say no honestly and briefly Saying no to the request, not the person Curating your friendships and letting other people be disappointed Where to start if you really struggle with setting boundaries If you've ever got to Friday night completely exhausted from a week of things you didn't want to do, this one's for you. If you’re ready to launch your business before Black Friday, go to shopify.com to start your free trial. Join The Midlife Club on Substack for exclusive extras and everything we mention on the show: substack.com/@themidlifeclub Read our book, Have You Tried This? by Nicole Goodman and Lauren Mishcon. Self Care Club: The Midlife Edition is a British Podcast Award-winning show about midlife, menopause, wellbeing and self-care for women in their 40s and 50s. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review and share it with a friend who needs to hear it. Get in touch with us: Email us: [email protected] Instagram @selfcareclubpod Try AG1 now at https://drinkag1.com/selfcare and get £20 off your first order + 5 AG1 Travel Packs for on the go, a bottle of Vitamin D3+K2, and the Welcome Kit for FREE. No risk with the 30- day money-back guarantee. Find all details about the health benefits in the link. Study results are on file with AG1, 2023. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices