477: Dr. Cheryl Fraser on The Truth About Sex, Desire & Long-Term Love

"Scheduling sex doesn't sound very sexy, but you know what's less sexy? Never having sex." What if losing the spark doesn't mean you've lost the love? In this powerful conversation, Kute sits down with clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Cheryl Fraser to challenge some of our deepest beliefs about sex, desire, and long-term love. We're taught that passion should happen naturally, that if we're with the right person, desire will always be there. But what happens when the person you love becomes your best friend, your partner, your co-parent… and somewhere along the way, you stop being lovers? Dr. Cheryl reveals why fading desire doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with you or your relationship. She explores the shame and conditioning that shape our sexuality, why waiting to "feel in the mood" can quietly kill intimacy, and what it actually takes to bring passion back after years of disconnection. This isn't simply a conversation about having more sex. It's about reclaiming a part of yourself you may have forgotten. Because passion isn't something you either have or lose. It's something you learn how to create. TIMESTAMPS (00:03:16) - The sexual messages we inherit without realizing it (00:06:00) - The biggest myths about sex and desire (00:15:15) - Why female sexuality has been suppressed (00:25:29) - How important is sex in a relationship? (00:33:48) - Why desire disappears in long-term love (00:40:46) - Rebuilding intimacy after years without sex (00:43:23) - How to reignite the spark when you feel like roommates (00:49:13) - Fantasy, novelty, and bringing passion back SOME QUESTIONS I ASK What are the biggest myths we still believe about sex and desire? Why has female sexuality historically carried so much shame? How important is sex in a healthy long-term relationship? Why does spontaneous desire disappear and what do we do when it does? Can couples truly reignite passion after years of feeling like roommates? What does great sex actually have to do with the mind, presence, and spirituality? IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN Why losing desire doesn't necessarily mean you've lost love The hidden conditioning shaping your sexuality Why waiting to "feel in the mood" may be killing your sex life How to move from roommates back to lovers Why great intimacy requires intention, not just chemistry How fantasy and novelty can awaken desire Why your sexual self deserves to evolve as you do How sex can become a doorway to connection, vulnerability, and aliveness GET IN TOUCH: Dr. Cheryl Fraser Create a passionate love relationship. I'll show you how. Click on the link: https://drcherylfraser.com Create a life that is a masterpiece Join the transformational journey: www.boundlessblissbali.com Email: [email protected] Website: www.kuteblackson.com