How To Break Relationship Patterns Through Self Love with Alfina Lofaro

You can read every relationship book on the shelf and still find yourself saying yes when you mean no, choosing the same partner in a new outfit, or carrying the emotional weight for everyone around you. That’s where this conversation takes a turn from advice into real change. We’re joined by Australia-based relationship coach Alfina Lafaro, who helps people “love deliberately” instead of by accident, habit, or cultural script. We talk about why people pleasing gets praised while quietly eroding self-respect, how the “mommy 2.0” dynamic shows up in modern relationships, and why leading with love also means leading with honesty. If you’ve ever felt trapped between keeping the peace and telling the truth, you’ll recognize yourself here. Alfina also breaks down how unconscious patterns live in the body, including her use of kinesiology to surface what you actually want and what’s blocking it. We explore attachment styles, nervous system regulation, and the idea that the universe reflects who you are, not just what you desire. Along the way, we share our own wake-up moments: burnout, identity cracks, and the hard but freeing work of becoming someone you genuinely enjoy being. We close by widening the lens to money, integrity in the spiritual world, and why deliberate connection matters even more in the age of AI, algorithms, and rapid change. If you’re ready to set better boundaries, stop abandoning yourself, and build relationships that match your self-worth, press play, then subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show The Edgy, Soul-Stirring Podcast for Conscious Living in the Age of AI & Aquarius   Hosted by 3x Best-Selling Author, Inspirational Speaker,  Cultural Pioneer, and Founder of the SoulTech Foundation, Cynthia L. Elliott. Humanity is standing at the threshold of two revolutions: the Age of AI and the Age of Aquarius. SoulTech with Cynthia is the podcast that helps you rise to meet both. Grounded in wisdom, humor, and straight-talk spirituality, Cynthia guides you through the profound inner shift required to thrive in a rapidly transforming world. Through compelling solo episodes and powerful conversations with innovators, authors, visionaries, technologists, creators, and change-makers, the show bridges conscious living, soul-centered transformation, and future readiness. Discover more at CynthiaLElliott.com or SoulTechFoundation.org. X / Twitter TikTok Facebook Page LinkedIn Media Kit ...