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Teens shouldn't have to wait until adulthood to start outgrowing porn. Because porn is reaching boys sooner than ever, healing should start sooner, too. If you’re a young man who feels stuck in a cycle of sexual shame or a parent who wants to help, this podcast is for you. Each episode empowers fathers and sons to heal together and find lasting freedom from porn through vulnerability, curiosity, and compassion from a Christian perspective. Join author Drew Boa, clinical psychologist Dr. Doug Carpenter, and youth recovery expert Blake Brinkman for the conversations most of us never had—but desperately need. Don’t wait! Outgrow porn at any age.

Recent Episodes

When and How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex

When and how should you start talking to your kids about sex? Rather than having one overwhelming, 100-minute "talk," the key is normalizing sex education through thousands of unhurried, everyday micro-conversations. From teaching toddlers about "swimming suit parts" to helping teens navigate complex online risks like sextortion, this episode offers a practical, age-by-age roadmap for every stage of parenting. What we cover in this episode: The Power of First Mention: Why parents must be the ...

23 MIN

Why Teen Resistance to Recovery is an Invitation to Intimacy

When a young person is hesitant, resistant, or completely uninterested in outgrowing porn, parental responses often lead to power struggles. This conversation flips that script. Rather than viewing resistance as rebellion or a moral failure, we explore how to reframe it as courageous honesty and an invitation to build real trust. Learn why connection must always come first, how to uncover the underlying emotional needs porn is attempting to solve, and how parents can create a safe space for o...

26 MIN

The Teen Brain in Porn Recovery: Neurobiology Changes Everything

Teens aren't sexually struggling due to a lack of willpower or moral character. The four-part model of the brain (Bottom, Top, Left, and Right) explains why: the heavily developed "bottom brain" (survival and safety) and "right brain" (emotions and non-verbal cues) are constantly seeking soothing in a hypersexualized world, while the "top brain" (logical decision-making) isn't fully developed until age 25 or 26. "The largest, most powerful sexual organ in your body is not below your belt; it ...

31 MIN

Feel It To Heal It: Why Boys Turn to Porn and How to Process Sexualized Emotions

Why do uncomfortable emotions like fear, anxiety, anger, or deep loneliness so easily morph into sudden sexual urges? Let's deconstruct the toxic myth that "men don't have feelings" and reveal the link between unprocessed emotions and pornography use. When boys and men lack the tools or safe spaces to process uncomfortable feelings, the brain often defaults to sexualization—using porn or masturbation as a quick "dopamine lever" to balance out discomfort and numb pain. Join us to learn the def...

34 MIN

What Every Boy Needs From His Mom: Support Without Shame, Pressure, or Enmeshment

What does a teenage boy truly need from his mother when navigating sexuality, pornography, and recovery? Mothers play a vital role in their sons' emotional, spiritual, and sexual development. Especially when many teens in recovery lack an engaged father figure, a safe and validating mother can change everything. Learn how moms can offer nurturing connection without falling into common traps like shame, purity culture lectures, or emotional enmeshment. "When in doubt, normalize and validate th...

32 MIN