Start Your Comeback: Rebuilding after Divorce, Empty Nest, and Loss of Spouse

A bad day does not mean you have a bad life. One setback does not mean your comeback has failed. In Week 4 of the ReEntry series, Toni talks about one of the most important lessons she learned as a coach: short-term memory loss. When a player misses a shot and stands there replaying it instead of hustling back on defense, one bad play can quickly become two. Life works the same way. In this episode: Why setbacks do not erase your progressWhat short-term memory loss means in sports an...

You can be capable, independent, and resourceful and still need support. In Week 3 of the ReEntry series, Toni talks about why asking for help can feel so uncomfortable, especially when you have spent years being the one who handles everything. She shares how independence became part of her identity, what happened when she finally ran into a problem she could not solve, and why perspective can matter just as much as strength. In this episode: Why problem-solving can become a way to manage fea...

What happens when the game changes, but you are still running the old plays? In Week 2 of the ReEntry series, Toni talks about the routines, responsibilities, and expectations we often carry into a new season simply because they are familiar. She shares what cooking for one taught her after years of cooking for her family and why changing a routine can feel surprisingly emotional when that routine represented connection, identity, or love. This episode is not about throwing away your old life...

You survived Shock. You worked your way through Limbo. Now comes the part that can feel surprisingly uncomfortable: living again. In this week's episode of Start Your Comeback, Toni begins the five-week ReEntry series with a personal look at what her own ReEntry actually looked like after divorce and becoming an empty nester. It wasn't the day the divorce became final. It began in a nearly empty apartment filled with hand-me-down furniture and one unexpected realization: She wanted to be lig...

Before we move from Limbo into ReEntry, we are calling a timeout. In this episode, Toni walks you through a simple three-part reset: Reflect. Resource. Regroup. You’ll take a look at how far you’ve come, identify the people and tools in your Comeback Toolbox, and make space to rest without confusing tired with finished. Because you did not come this far just to quit here. In this episode: Why quiet progress still countsHow to recognize how much has changed in youWho and what belongs in you...