Dealing with Student Rudeness: Teacher mental health means setting boundaries AND surviving setting boundaries!

Ah, rudeness. Most college professors do not expect it from their students (or from anybody). The hierarchy in colleges and universities is pretty clear, and the stakes of messing with it are generally high for students. So what do you do when a student tells you to wait while they finish typing their text? In other words, how does student rudeness affect teachers? Even if you handle the student effectively in the moment, what if you feel bad about it afterwards? Teacher mental health (everyone’s mental health) includes surviving boundary hangover, or the regret that can follow doing the right interpersonal thing. In this episode, we hear some college professors in a Teacher Support Group wrestle with this very thing: setting an appropriate boundary and feeling bad about it afterwards. We discuss * Who’s in Charge: What to do when the authority structure gets flipped upside down * The Class Placeholder: The possible ramifications when students scramble to change their course schedule * Student Distractions: Do students need help fitting into your classroom reality? * The Teacher Ego: Why it’s crucial to teacher mental health * Objectification: What the antidote is to the common experience of being turned into an object for someone else’s use You don’t have to be a college professor to relate to this story! High school teachers, elementary and pre-school teachers, even parents — everyone who interacts with other people, especially members of Gen Z, can benefit from hearing how these teachers work through their reactions to student rudeness. Teacher mental health is crucial. Check it out! External links Teaching through Emotions What type of teacher are you? Take the quiz! Connect & Share Got a story to share? What shockingly rude behaviors have you encountered in your classroom? I’d love to hear! Leave me a voicemail at (413) 239-4158 and we might feature your perspective in a future episode! Or send me an email! [email protected]. Support the Show: If this conversation resonated, please consider leaving a rating or review on your podcast app. Your feedback helps others find us. Get full access to the community: www.teachingthroughemotions.com/subscribe Credits Founder and Host: Betsy Burris Producer: Jullian Androkae of PodVision Audience Development: Andreea Coscai of PodVision Podcast Editor: Jasper Chua Theme Music: Tom Burris/Jabbering Trout Interstitial Music: Brad Wells Chapters: 00:00 Thank yous, then when students get under your skin03:58 A college student tells his professor "okay, go ahead"09:08 The group asks: was the phone really the problem?17:03 When students treat your class as a placeholder20:36 Getting paused like a phone, and why it stings29:21 Saying no to the replay, then the boundary hangover38:01 The plan: trust your gut and speak up42:44 A month later, plus takeaways for your own classroom This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.teachingthroughemotions.com/subscribe