The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

Episode Summary In this episode, I'm sharing a conversation from Dr. Chris Magryta's podcast, Dr. M's Women and Children First Podcast, where he interviewed me about parenting, triggers, emotions, childhood wounds, and The Adult Chair model. We talk about what it means to become an emotionally healthy adult, why our children model what we do more than what we say, and how triggers can show us the unconscious beliefs and younger parts of ourselves that are ready to be healed. Chris and I also explore conscious parenting, co-regulation, self-worth, holding space, feeling emotions in the body, and why these emotional life skills belong not only in our homes, but in our schools and communities. Key Takeaways: The Adult Chair model helps us understand the parts of ourselves that react, feel, protect, and respond. Many adults are walking around in adult bodies while reacting from younger versions of themselves. Triggers are a gift because they reveal unconscious beliefs we may not otherwise see. Co-regulation begins when we are able to stay grounded while someone else is having an emotion. Parents do not need to fix every feeling their child has. They need to learn how to sit with them, listen, breathe, and hold space. Conscious parenting means trusting your child's path while giving them structure, guidance, space, and support. Self-worth is built by validating children for who they are, not only for what they do or how they perform. Social media can make comparison and self-worth struggles even harder for kids and adults. Emotions move through the body when we allow ourselves to feel them without building a story around them. Curiosity is one of the most powerful tools we can use with ourselves, our children, and our triggers. Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair Coaching Certification: https://theadultchair.com/certification The Adult Chair Trigger Kit: https://theadultchair.com/triggerkit Free Inner Child Resources: https://theadultchair.com/innerchild Free Self-Worth Masterclass: https://theadultchair.com/selfworth Chris Magryta's Podcast: Dr. M's Women and Children First Podcast MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Episode Summary: In this episode, I'm joined by Laura Dionisio, one of our Certified Adult Chair® Master Coaches, for a powerful and vulnerable conversation about what happens when we stop living from our protective masks and begin listening to what our body is trying to tell us. Laura shares her journey from an engineering, high-achieving mindset into a more heart-open life led from within. She talks about the "badass" or "I've got this" mask she wore for years, how it protected her inner child, and what it looked like to finally begin letting that mask go. We also talk about shame, inner child healing, and why so many of us keep running around the very feelings that are asking to be felt, metabolized, and released. Laura shares how The Adult Chair® framework helped her work with her adolescent parts instead of fighting them, and how she learned to reconnect with her body after years of living mostly from her head. This episode is such a beautiful reminder that healing is not about becoming someone new. It is about softening the masks, turning toward the parts of us that feel afraid or ashamed, and learning how to live from the truth of who we really are. Key Takeaways: Protective masks often form when parts of us feel afraid, unsafe, ashamed, or unsupported Laura's "tough" persona helped her feel protected, but eventually became something she was ready to release Shame, unworthiness, and fear do not transform when we avoid them. We have to turn toward them with compassion Feeling emotions in the body can feel confusing at first, especially if you have spent years living in your head A body scan is a simple practice that helps you notice physical sensations without trying to change them "Reverse bedtime procrastination" can be a sign that your needs, joy, or truth are being ignored during the day Creating space between a realization and an action can help you own your truth without panicking Fear and doubt do not always mean you are making the wrong decision. Sometimes they are protective parts trying to keep you safe Resources from this Episode: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.m.dionisio LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laura-dionisio/ The Pivot Point Podcast FREE Heart-Aligned Career Transition Starter: https://www.leadintact.com/freebies/heart-aligned-career MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Episode Summary In this bonus episode, I'm answering the most common questions I receive about The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Program and what makes this six-month experience so powerful. I'll walk you through who the program is for, what you'll learn, why you don't need prior coaching experience, and how the certification supports both personal and professional transformation. This is not just about learning how to coach. It's about becoming the kind of person who can hold grounded, compassionate space for others while doing your own deep inner work. I'll also share what's included in the program, from the four-day in-person training to monthly live teachings, personal coaching sessions, practicum hours, coach feedback, and business support. Key Takeaways You do not need previous coaching experience to join This program includes both personal transformation and coach training You'll learn The Adult Chair Coaching methodology, parts work, triggers, unconscious beliefs, nervous system awareness, intuition, and masterful listening The program begins with a four-day in-person training in Phoenix You'll receive live teaching, mentoring, coaching, feedback, and support throughout the six months You'll also receive business training to help you begin building a coaching practice Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification: Enroll Now! Have more questions? Email Michelle at [email protected] MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Episode Summary Have you ever wanted to change a relationship with someone you love, but had no idea where to begin? In this episode, I'm joined by Tracy Brown, one of my Adult Chair coaches, for a vulnerable conversation about how inner child work, parts work, and speaking from the heart helped her transform her relationship with her father. Tracy shares how she moved through old hurt, resentment, and the story that her dad did not really want to be with her. After working with the younger parts of herself that felt forgotten and not special, she was able to speak her truth without blame, open her heart, and create a completely different outcome than her ego could have imagined. Key Takeaways The ego creates stories when we feel hurt, rejected, forgotten, or not prioritized Stories can make us believe there is only one way someone can prove they love us Parts work helps us identify the younger parts that are carrying old pain Tracy discovered a three-year-old part of herself that felt lonely, sad, forgotten, and not special Emotional release can create more space, softness, and compassion in the body Speaking from the heart is different than speaking from the head or ego Vulnerability invites a different kind of response from the other person When we speak our truth without blame, we create space for deeper connection The ego bases the future on what has happened in the past Staying present allows the outcome to be better than we could have imagined Journaling after inner work helps with integration and deeper understanding Inner child work is ongoing, and younger parts may still need love and attention after a breakthrough Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification: https://theadultchair.com/certification Connect with Tracy Brown: https://coachingwithtracybrown.com Connect with Tracy on IG @reidybrown MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Episode Summary Self-worth is an inside job, but so many of us were taught to look outside of ourselves to feel valuable. In this episode, I'm talking about what self-worth really is, where it comes from, and how appearance, performance, perfectionism, people-pleasing, codependency, and outside validation can shape the way we see ourselves. I also share part of my own story of growing up with my worth tied to beauty and appearance, and how that eventually led me on a deeper journey of building real self-worth from within. You'll learn how to come back to fact and truth when comparison or self-judgment starts to spiral, how to practice self-validation in small everyday moments, and how to help children build healthy self-worth by validating who they are, not just what they do. Key Takeaways Self-worth is not something you have to earn Looking outside of yourself for your worth leads to unhealthy patterns and relationships Appearance, performance, helping, perfectionism, and people-pleasing can all become ways we try to feel worthy Codependency can make our identity and self-worth feel tied to helping others Children build self-worth through what is modeled and reflected back to them Validating children for who they are is more powerful than only praising what they do Comparison is not always the problem. The problem is when comparison turns into self-judgment Stories are not fact and truth, and they can send us into anxiety, overwhelm, and awfulizing You have the power to choose which thoughts you latch onto Changing your physical state can help interrupt a negative emotional spiral Small daily validations matter, even if no one else sees them Healthy self-worth is built from the inside out Resources from this Episode: Free Self-Worth Masterclass: https://theadultchair.com/selfworth The Adult Chair® Metamorphosis Live Event: https://theadultchair.com/liveevents MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant