The Angry Therapist Podcast

How do you learn to love again when you're afraid of getting hurt? And how do you rebuild trust in therapy when your husband has betrayed you with someone who's a therapist? In today's episode, I'm answering two deeply personal listener questions about betrayal, emotional safety, and the fear of trusting again. We explore why betrayal can change the way we see people, how to rebuild trust, and why learning to trust yourself might be more important than finding someone who will never hurt you. Need advice? Ask Angry! Call (323) 487-2159 anytime and leave a voicemail. Your question could be featured on the podcast! 31 Days to Get Out of Your Own Way Break old patterns and turn insight into action.https://nas.com/therapist-membership-qa-space/challenges/31-days-to-get-out-of-your-own-way Secure Self CourseReady for deeper work? https://theangrytherapist.thrivecart.com/secure-self-bundle/ Connect with me: My latest book: Breaking Confidentiality https://breakingconfidentiality.com/#/john/pre-order Soulprint | My publishing company https://www.soulprintmedia.co Love Hard On Purpose https://www.harpercollins.com/products/love-hard-on-purpose-john-kim?variant=44339801227298 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/ Website: https://www.theangrytherapist.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this re-release, I answer five of the most common questions I get about love, relationships, and emotional well-being. I also share five daily reminders to help you reconnect with yourself and support your healing. In this episode, I answer: Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people? Is it love or just attachment? Should love be easy, or should it take work? How do I know if I'm settling in my relationship? Why do healthy relationships feel boring after toxic ones? Need advice? Ask Angry! Call (323) 487-2159 anytime and leave a voicemail. Your question could be featured on the podcast! Costa Rica Retreat | November 9–13 This isn't a vacation. It's a reset.https://surfsexandpancakes.com/ 31 Days to Get Out of Your Own Way Break old patterns and turn insight into action.https://nas.com/therapist-membership-qa-space/challenges/31-days-to-get-out-of-your-own-way Secure Self Course Ready for deeper work?https://theangrytherapist.thrivecart.com/secure-self-bundle/ Connect with me: My latest book: Breaking Confidentiality https://breakingconfidentiality.com/#/john/pre-order Soulprint | My publishing company https://www.soulprintmedia.co Love Hard On Purpose https://www.harpercollins.com/products/love-hard-on-purpose-john-kim?variant=44339801227298 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/ Website: https://www.theangrytherapist.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like your mind is telling you you're fine, but your body is saying something completely different? You're overwhelmed, constantly on edge, or struggling to slow down. And no matter how many times you tell yourself to relax, you just can't seem to switch off. In today's re-release, I'm revisiting a conversation about how to calm your nervous system, manage stress, and find your way back to feeling grounded. Because sometimes, it's not about changing what's happening around you. It's about learning how to respond to what's happening inside you. In this episode: How to calm your nervous system when you're feeling overwhelmed Understanding stress and emotional regulation Why slowing down can feel harder than it sounds Learning to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming If you've been feeling stressed, anxious, or like you're constantly running on empty, this episode is worth revisiting. What if the first step to feeling better isn't doing more, but learning how to slow down? Originally released June 17, 2022. I have a four-day immersion designed to shake loose the old operating system you've been living from and help you build a new one - one rooted in flow, connection, joy, and nervous system regulation.November 9-13 | Costa Rica THIS ISN'T A VACATION. IT'S A RESET. Perfect for beginners If you feel the pull. Stay with it. Don't miss out on the next retreat. The next retreat will be from November 9-13 https://surfsexandpancakes.com/ If you’re tired of knowing what you need to change but still repeating the same patterns, 31 Days to Get Out of Your Own Way is for you. For 31 days, we’ll work on closing the gap between insight and action through structure, accountability, and ownership. Less analyzing yourself. More making different choices and actually changing your life. Learn more and join here:https://nas.com/therapist-membership-qa-space/challenges/31-days-to-get-out-of-your-own-way 🎙️ CONNECT WITH ME: 📘 My upcoming book: Breaking ConfidentialityPre-order here: https://breakingconfidentiality.com/#/john/pre-order 📘 Love Hard On PurposeToss the blueprints. Build something honest.https://www.harpercollins.com/products/love-hard-on-purpose-john-kim?variant=44339801227298 My book publishing company: Soulprinthttps://www.soulprintmedia.co 📘 Read my book in progress: Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell Youhttps://breakingconfidentiality.com/ Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it feel like to return to the country where you were born after 50 years? I'm back in South Korea for the first time since leaving as a child, and the experience has brought up memories, emotions, and parts of my identity I haven't connected with in decades. From exploring Seoul and Busan to rediscovering the food and culture I once felt embarrassed about growing up, I reflect on what it means to reconnect with your roots, see your childhood through a different lens, and experience a place that's both familiar and completely new. I talk about: Returning to South Korea for the first time in 50 years My first impressions of Seoul and Busan Rediscovering Korean food, language, and culture Growing up Korean American and feeling pressure to fit in How the things I once felt ashamed of became sources of pride Revisiting childhood memories and reconnecting with my identity The unexpected emotions that come with returning to your birthplace Why travel can be an important part of personal growth Learning to stop postponing meaningful experiences If this episode resonated with you, be sure to follow the podcast, leave a rating, and share it with someone who might need to hear it. I have a four-day immersion designed to shake loose the old operating system you've been living from and help you build a new one - one rooted in flow, connection, joy, and nervous system regulation. November 9-13 | Costa Rica THIS ISN'T A VACATION. IT'S A RESET. Perfect for beginners If you feel the pull. Stay with it. Don't miss out on the next retreat. The next retreat will be from November 9-13 https://surfsexandpancakes.com/ If you’re tired of knowing what you need to change but still repeating the same patterns, 31 Days to Get Out of Your Own Way is for you. For 31 days, we’ll work on closing the gap between insight and action through structure, accountability, and ownership. Less analyzing yourself. More making different choices and actually changing your life. Learn more and join here: https://nas.com/therapist-membership-qa-space/challenges/31-days-to-get-out-of-your-own-way 🎙️ Connect with me: My New Book: Breaking Confidentiality — Learn More & Pre-Order https://breakingconfidentiality.com/#/john/pre-order My book publishing company, Soulprint: https://www.soulprintmedia.co If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available here: https://theangrytherapist.thrivecart.com/secure-self-bundle/ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the hardest chapters of your life are actually setting you up for something you can't see yet? I've been through divorce, lost my home, started over in my fifties, and questioned who I was more times than I can count. And now, looking back, I'm beginning to connect the dots. In this episode, I'm taking you on a walk through Costa Rica to talk about the stories we tell ourselves, how we make sense of our past, and why changing our perspective can change our lives. We get into: Finding meaning in difficult experiences Starting over and letting go of old identities How your relationship with yourself shapes your reality Why life's biggest setbacks might eventually make sense I'm not saying everything happens for a reason or that changing your mindset magically fixes everything. But what if you're not stuck? What if you're just in the middle of a chapter that hasn't made sense yet? Your story is the most powerful thing you'll ever own. And maybe your hardest chapter isn't the ending. 🌴 November 9–13 | Costa Rica Retreat31 Days to Get Out of Your Own Way THIS ISN'T A VACATION. IT'S A RESET. Sometimes the next chapter of your story begins with stepping away from the life you've been living. My four-day Costa Rica immersion is designed to help you shake loose the old operating system you've been living from and build something new — rooted in flow, connection, joy, and nervous system regulation. A chance to reconnect with yourself, let go of old patterns, and explore what's next. Perfect for beginners. If you feel the pull, stay with it. November 9–13 | Costa Rica https://surfsexandpancakes.com/ Changing your story starts with making different choices. If you're tired of knowing what you need to change but still repeating the same patterns, 31 Days to Get Out of Your Own Way is for you. For 31 days, we'll work on closing the gap between insight and action through structure, accountability, and ownership. Less analyzing yourself. More making different choices and actually changing your life. Learn more and join here: https://nas.com/therapist-membership-qa-space/challenges/31-days-to-get-out-of-your-own-way 🎙️ Connect with me: 📘 My upcoming book, Breaking Confidentiality: Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You. An honest, unfiltered look behind the therapy room door, revealing the human side of being a therapist and the things we rarely talk about. Pre-order here: https://www.kobo.com/us/es/ebook/breaking-confidentiality-sh-t-your-therapist-would-never-tell-you My book publishing company, Soulprint: https://www.soulprintmedia.co If you're ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available here: https://theangrytherapist.thrivecart.com/secure-self-bundle/ 📘 Order my book, Break Up. On Purpose.: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/break-up-on-purpose-john-kim?variant=42305553956898 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/ Find out more: https://www.theangrytherapist.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices