Knowing When to Quit | Lindsay Crouse

Quitting isn’t the opposite of perseverance. Sometimes it’s what allows you to keep going in a direction that actually matters. AJ sits down with journalist and author Lindsay Crouse to challenge the belief that winners never quit. Lindsay explains how unchecked perseverance can turn ambition into exhaustion, why successful people get trapped by sunk costs and identities they’ve outgrown, and how continuing down the wrong path is just as much a choice as walking away. You’ll learn how to recognize when persistence has stopped serving you, create “kill criteria” before emotions move the goalposts, separate your identity from your career, and experiment with change before making a major leap. Lindsay also explains why micro-quitting—removing commitments, obligations, and clutter—can help you reclaim the time and energy to persevere at what’s actually worth keeping. Episode Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Case-Quitting-Exiting-Improves-Happiness/dp/0063277573 Chapters 00:00 – Why winners sometimes need to quit 03:43 – Quitting can actually help you persevere 07:08 – How to know when persistence has gone too far 11:13 – Why saying no can be a form of strength 14:20 – The arrival fallacy: “I’ll rest when I succeed” 16:02 – Stop defining yourself by what you do 21:09 – Use kill criteria to know when to walk away 25:12 – What happens after you quit 29:24 – Are you living a provisional life? 32:09 – Sliding vs. deciding your future 34:52 – Why other people care less than you think 39:49 – Letting go of the life you could have lived 43:08 – How to quit without damaging your career 47:35 – Start practicing with micro-quitting A Word From Our Sponsors Get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers by using promo code CHARM at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Shopify is where you go to start your business, and everything you need to sell is already there from day one. Start your free trial by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOPIFY.COM/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with top talent ready to help your business grow by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UPWORK.COM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Keywords quitting, perseverance, grit, burnout, career change, sunk cost fallacy, knowing when to quit, workaholism, career pivot, identity, decision making, kill criteria, ambition, saying no, boundaries, personal growth, career development, productivity, intentional living, micro quitting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices