The Healthiest Version of You Isn't the Most Disciplined (It's THIS) | Dominique Elissa

You are allowed to let go of the rules and routines that no longer fit your healthiest self, and this episode might just be the permission slip and re-evaluation you've been waiting for. In this episode of The Balance Theory, Erika sits down with Dominique Elissa, founder of Selfdom, for a conversation that moves through pregnancy, body image, grief and gratitude, and keeps landing on the same question: what does it actually mean to be well when your body, your routine and your world are all changing at once? This is not another conversation about doing more, optimising harder or adding one more rule to your routine. It is an honest look at why flexibility, not discipline, is what actually makes you well. If you have ever caught yourself thinking: "I am doing all the right things and it still is not enough" "My body is changing and none of this feels like mine anymore" "I want to trust what my body is telling me instead of following another rule" "I know gratitude is supposed to help, but some days it feels impossible to even try" Then this episode is for you. In this conversation, Erika and Dominique cover: - Why being told she wasn't "good enough" for a modelling job changed the way Dominique saw her own body - The moment Dominique realised her wellness rules were about control, not about actually feeling good - How pregnancy is reshaping her relationship with discipline, structure and flexibility - Why rigidity can cap your life experience more than it protects you - Grieving a parent while building a family of your own - What Dominique wants her children to know about their Nonna - Why gratitude only works when it is practised consistently, not just in the hardest moments - A simple explanation of cycle syncing and why most women are never taught it - How to stop wellness tracking from becoming another source of pressure - Whether a content creator can ever really be present, and where Dominique draws the line Wherever you are in your own version of change, whether that is your body, your habits or your grief, this conversation is proof the flexible path can be the healthiest one too. SPONSORS: 🤖 Try Granola for FREE - Go to https://www.granola.ai/BALANCE and try it on your next call. 🧑‍⚕️ Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/BALANCE #rulapod Filmed at Pivotal Conversations Studios @pivotalconversations https://www.instagram.com/pivotalconversations Book a session: https://www.pivotalconversations.ai CONNECT 📸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- https://www.instagram.com/dominiquelissa/ 🌎 Website - https://www.selfdom.au - For 20% off use the code “BALANCETHEORY” TIMESTAMP (00:00) Introduction (07:14) What did you think your future would look like? (18:09) They cancelled my job because my belly wasn’t “big enough” (20:31) Having anchors that make you, you (21:31) Wellness habits that are more about control than a benefit (25:04) How do you manage your self-talk? (26:59) How has pregnancy changed the way you grieve your mum? (30:19) What would you want your kids to know about their Nonna? (31:16) Everyone should ask their mums this (36:43) Does gratitude actually work in your hardest moments? (42:49) Cycle syncing: What you need to know (51:36) The role of intuition when you’re pregnant (56:15) Can a content creator ever fully be present? (58:47) Will you post your child on social media? (1:00:22) What does wellness mean to you today? WHO AM I? My name is Erika and I am an Australian living in Dubai. I have my own business as a strategic legal consultant and run this podcast to explore my passion + curiosity for all things health, wellness, self growth & mindset. A big focus of mine is how to sustainably navigate a busy schedule and live my best life in the process. Welcome to my Channel! 📸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with me on IG!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES ▶︎⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 25 Day Self Development Marathon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶︎ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠21 Day Self Growth Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶︎ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Goal Setting System E-Book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ LET’S BE FRIENDS 📸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📱⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiktok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🧡 This description may contain affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. Thank you for your support! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices