Ep. 67: The Pain You’re Trying to Avoid May Be the Pain You’re Prolonging

When you’re stuck trying to decide what to do about your marriage, your mind can spend a lot of time imagining everything that could go wrong. What if I stay and nothing ever changes? What if I leave and end up alone? What if I make the wrong decision and regret it? In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, I’m talking about what I call anticipatory pain—the pain and difficult emotions we imagine we might experience after making a decision. But sometimes, there’s an important realization hiding underneath those fears: the pain you’re trying to avoid may already be the pain you’re experiencing. I’ll share the story of a client who realized that the lonely future he was so afraid of was remarkably similar to the life he was already living. And I’ll walk you through a simple two-page exercise to help you compare your feared future with what is actually happening in your marriage right now. This isn’t about convincing you to stay or leave. It’s about seeing your situation more clearly so you can stop making decisions—or avoiding them—based solely on fear. Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com