Ep. 68 Is Uncertainty Keeping You Stuck?

If you’re waiting to feel 100% certain before deciding whether to stay in your marriage or leave, you may be waiting for something that never comes. You want to know the kids will be okay. That you’ll be financially okay. That you won’t regret leaving. Or, if you’re considering staying, you want proof that your spouse will really change and that the marriage can become what you’ve been hoping for. The problem is that those guarantees don’t exist. In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, I’m talking about the difference between certainty and clarity—and why confusing the two can keep you stuck at the crossroads for months or even years. We’ll talk about the “100% trap,” why doubt doesn’t automatically mean you’re making the wrong decision, and what clarity actually sounds like when you’re considering either rebuilding your marriage or moving toward divorce. I’ll also walk you through what I call the U-turn test: a way to recognize whether a hard moment is giving you genuinely new information—or whether fear, loneliness, guilt, hope, or disappointment is simply making you question a decision you’ve already spent a long time thinking through. Because whichever direction you choose, there will be difficult days. A bad fight after deciding to repair doesn’t necessarily mean the marriage can’t change. Feeling lonely after deciding to leave doesn’t necessarily mean you made a mistake. And seeing your spouse suddenly make changes after years of asking doesn’t automatically erase everything that brought you to your decision in the first place. The goal isn’t to reach a place where you never doubt yourself again. It’s to become clear enough about your direction that every hard day doesn’t send you back to square one. If you’ve been waiting for certainty before allowing yourself to move forward, this episode will help you think differently about what you actually need to make a decision that can hold. Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com