Ep. 70: Has Self-Abandonment Contributed to Resentment in Your Marriage?

Are you resentful toward your husband or wife because of the sacrifices you've made, the decisions you regret, or the life you feel you've given up? Maybe you're questioning your marriage and wondering whether divorce is the answer. But what if some of the resentment you feel toward your spouse is connected to the ways you've abandoned your own needs along the way? In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, we're exploring the connection between self-abandonment, resentment in marriage, people-pleasing, and the difficult decision to stay married or get divorced. Maybe you agreed to financial decisions you weren't comfortable with. Passed up career opportunities. Put your spouse's needs ahead of your own. Or spent years saying yes when you really wanted to say no. Over time, those choices can create deep resentment, emotional disconnection, and dissatisfaction in your marriage. But here's an important distinction: Are you truly done with your marriage, or are you done with the way you've been showing up in it? In this episode, we'll talk about: How self-abandonment and people-pleasing contribute to resentment in marriage. The difference between healthy compromise and repeatedly sacrificing your needs. Why you might blame your spouse for decisions you participated in. How setting boundaries and speaking up for yourself can change your marriage dynamics. What your spouse's response to your changing behavior reveals about whether your marriage can be repaired. Three questions to help you understand your resentment and gain clarity about staying married or getting divorced. Taking responsibility for your part doesn't mean blaming yourself, excusing your spouse, or committing to staying married. It means understanding what's really behind your unhappiness so you can make a more informed decision about your future. If you're stuck wondering, "Should I get a divorce?" or "Can my marriage be saved?" this episode will help you explore whether the problem is your marriage, the patterns you've developed within it, or both. Ready for more clarity? Take my free Should I Get a Divorce? quiz to discover which of the Six Stages of the Divorce Decision you're in and what that means for your next steps. Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com