When Did You Stop Being You? How to Find Your Way Back | Scott Lackey

When did you stop being you? Not all at once. Maybe it happened every time you said yes when you wanted to say no. Every time you chose what was expected over what you actually wanted. Every time you handed another tiny piece of yourself to a job, a relationship, a role, or the version of you everyone else needed you to be. Until one day, you look around at a life you helped build and wonder: Where the hell did I go? This episode is a little different. It’s the finale of my very first FitZen Book Club, where Lisa and I sat down with Scott Lackey, author of Wake Up to Die Again, after spending weeks reading, discussing, and questioning the hell out of his story. And what started as a conversation about the book became something much bigger. 🍋 THE SQUEEZE Scott describes what happens when we slowly give pieces of ourselves away—and why we often don’t realize how far we’ve wandered until we wake up feeling empty. But finding your way back doesn’t require having your entire life figured out. Sometimes, you just need to know which direction is yours. 🧃 THE JUICE In this conversation, we get into: What Scott understands about his own story now that he couldn't have known while writing it The fear of creating something when you're convinced nobody will care How we slowly give pieces of ourselves away without realizing it Why hitting a low point can force you to finally pay attention The difference between measuring your life by distance versus direction What our scars reveal—and what happens when we stop hiding them The terrifying freedom of letting people see who you actually are Why you don't need to know the entire path before taking your next step What Scott's readers have taught him about the book he wrote The question Scott is asking himself now: What am I being called to wake up to next? And somewhere in the middle of all of it, we come back to one simple truth: Walk the way, and the way will appear. 💊 MICRODOSE OF COURAGE This week, don't figure out your entire life. Ask yourself: What direction do I know I want to move in? Then take the next logical step. One email. One conversation. One decision. One honest admission to yourself. You don't need proof that you're going to end up exactly where you think you're going. You just need enough courage to take the next step toward yourself. 📩 KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING If you want to keep doing this work with me, join The Weekly Change Request—my free weekly email where we take the conversations happening on the podcast and turn them into something you can actually use in your life. You'll find the link in the show notes. Wild enough to be free. Wise enough to receive. Lotus and Luna Link provides 20% off (sale items not included) Liforme Yoga Mats Use code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount! RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & more Affirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project helps fiercely independent women navigate overwhelm, nervous system regulation, relationships, boundaries, guilt, perfectionism, people pleasing, anxious and avoidant attachment, and identity shifts—so they can stop wondering “Am I the problem?”, create better energy management, find alignment, and build a life that feels as good as it looks.