Social Expert: Why You Can't Connect with Others - Nicholas Epley | 156

The Grateful Podcast with Jack Wagoner Episode 156Nicholas Epley studies why people struggle to connect for a living. He says the reason isn't what you're saying, it's what you're assuming before you even open your mouth.We go deep on why pessimism about how people will respond to you becomes self-fulfilling, the commuter train study that disproves what busy people assume about "wasted" time, and why connection outweighs income for daily happiness by seven times over.If connection has felt harder than it should lately, this one's for you.⏰ TIMESTAMPS00:00 — Are You Coming Across as Creepy?01:19 — Why We're Wired to Avoid What Helps Us02:59 — Socially Pessimistic (And Why That's Dangerous)05:55 — Connection Is a Series of Choices, Not a Feeling18:11 — Why "Being Articulate" Matters Less Than You Think20:11 — How to Not Come Across as Creepy22:49 — The "New York Moment" (Single-Serve Friendships)39:06 — Frequency Beats Duration in Every Relationship40:02 — Even Epley Gets This Wrong at Home43:18 — The Commute Study That Breaks the Productivity Myth45:49 — The 7x Gap Between Money and Connection🔗 NICK'S LINKSWebsite: https://www.nicholasepley.com/Book: A Little More Social — nicholasepley.com/booksLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/nicholas-epley📺 Listen on your favorite platform:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grateful-podcast-with-jack-wagoner/id1725776061Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5EsTEpQAjU4BxUrDoFyZ6b🧠 InnerVue — a complete self-awareness tool:→ https://yourinnervue.comUse code GRATEFUL20 for 20% off a Tier 1 InnerVue, plus a complimentary coach-led debrief of your report.🧠 More from Jack:► Website: https://jackwagoner.co► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jack_wagoner_/► 1:1 Coaching: [email protected]📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Jack_Wagoner⸻🎙️ About Jack:I moved to France alone at 16, started my first business at 17, and launched this podcast because I kept meeting people who had the answers to questions I didn't even know I was asking. My philosophy: you can set massive goals while being deeply fulfilled right now. That's the duality of gratitude and ambition.Subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode.Stay grateful, stay hungry.