Grace is Not Permissiveness: Raising Spiritually Strong Kids with Dr. Charles Fay

Bringing up spiritually strong kids in today's world can seem like a daunting challenge. Dr. Charles Fay, a psychologist and president of the Love and Logic Institute, joins Arlene to discuss his book Raising Spiritually Strong Kids. He explains Ephesians 2:8-10, the difference between grace and permissiveness, and how rescuing kids from every problem interrupts the trust cycle. He describes the Love and Logic approach of setting limits with few words and letting empathy and consequences teach, along with a five-step process for helping older kids with problems. He also covers parenting without shame, staying connected with kids, and what to do when spouses disagree about discipline. 1:15 – A toddler meltdown in a restaurant and a neighbor’s advice: “be loving and strong” 5:18 – Ephesians 2:8-10: saved by grace, saved to do good works 10:12 – A candy lesson: letting kids make affordable mistakes 18:18 – The “parenting prosperity gospel” and why doing everything right doesn’t guarantee results 20:00 – The trust cycle, why rescuing kids stunts it, and the five steps for helping with big problems 25:01 – Love and Logic in a nutshell: set limits with few words, let empathy and consequences teach 26:50 – How modern psychology has encouraged idolizing children 29:12 – Parenting without shame and building connection at home 32:25 – When spouses disagree on discipline Learn more about Love and Logic, and Dr. Charles Fay's book, Raising Spiritually Strong Kids Get Arlene's new book, The Great Tech Reset: Reclaiming Real Life for Christian Families. Free while supplies last from Summit Ministries TechResetBook.com More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email [email protected] Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.