The Hardcore Therapist 158.5- Closure or Performance? Why You Still Need Your Ex to See You Win

Send us Fan Mail Do you really want closure—or do you want your ex to see that you won? In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I explore why we sometimes still need an ex to see us thriving, even when we have no desire to get back together. We’ll talk about attachment, rumination, social-media checking, the fantasy of the “perfect” run-in, and why wanting someone to regret losing you can keep them psychologically connected to your healing. I also break down the difference between processing and rumination, why closure doesn’t always require another conversation, and the question that can change everything: Would you still make this choice if you knew your ex would never see it? Healing isn’t about proving they didn’t break you. Eventually, it’s about no longer needing them to look. Support the show