Gemma Styles on ADHD, Depression & Finally Understanding Her Brain

Writer, podcast host and mental health advocate Gemma Styles joins Ben for a deeply honest conversation about ADHD, anxiety, depression and the emotional weight of going through life feeling constantly overwhelmed without understanding why. Gemma reflects on being treated for mental health struggles long before anyone recognised ADHD, and how her diagnosis reframed years of self-blame, exhaustion and internal chaos. She speaks openly about the experience of internalised hyperactivity - where the mind never fully slows down, even when everything looks calm externally - and the pressure of trying to hold things together while quietly struggling underneath. Together, they explore rejection sensitivity dysphoria, social anxiety, motherhood, burnout and the emotional toll of living in a world that often rewards productivity while misunderstanding overwhelm. They also unpack the growing public conversation around ADHD in women - including the tension between increased visibility and the backlash that can come with it. This episode is about the reality underneath the headlines, labels and stereotypes - the lived experience of trying to navigate a world that often misunderstands overwhelm, emotional intensity and difference. And why finally understanding your brain can change the way you understand your entire life. Join us at hidden20.org/donate. ________ Host: Ben Branson Production Manager: Phoebe De Leiburné Video Editor: James Scriven Social Media Manager: Charlie Young Music: Jackson Greenberg Head of Marketing: Kristen Fuller 00:00 Introduction 04:30 Gemma Styles on ADHD, Mental Health & Public Perception 05:35 “My ADHD Was Completely Missed” 06:40 Depression, Anxiety & Knowing Something Else Was Going On 07:17 The Relief of Finally Understanding Your Brain 08:32 Why Talking About ADHD Publicly Matters 09:12 ADHD, Boundaries & Being Online 12:41 Late Diagnosis Grief & “What If I’d Known Earlier?” 13:45 Why So Many Women With ADHD Were Missed 14:13 ADHD in Adults: The System Wasn’t Looking For It 19:00 What Inattentive ADHD Feels Like Internally 20:00 ADHD Brains in Crisis Mode 28:05 Therapy, Overthinking & Anxious Thought Loops 29:37 ADHD & Anxiety: “It Never Fully Switches Off” 30:18 Social Anxiety, Fame & ADHD 31:27 Can You Be Authentic Online Without Oversharing? 32:20 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria & ADHD 34:15 Motherhood, ADHD & RSD 40:32 “ADHD Doesn’t Feel Like a Superpower To Me” 42:57 Writing a Book With ADHD 52:23 ADHD Community, Visibility & Feeling Seen 53:02 ADHD Social Media & The Attention Economy 56:41 Motherhood, Work & Stepping Back From Social Media 57:43 What Gemma Styles Finds Frustrating About ADHD Discourse 1:00:00 Gemma’s Green Dot Badge The Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson. Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence. No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence. 1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That’s 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support. To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can’t be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains. With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more. Join us at hidden20.org/donate. Become a monthly donor. Be part of our community where great minds think differently. Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348 ______________ Follow & subscribe… Website: www.hidden20.org Instagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charity Ben Branson @seedlip_ben Gemma Styles @gemmastyles If you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.