Episode 424 - Unconscious Relationship Patterns with Alfina Lofaro

October 23, 2026 The Jōrni Podcast Episode 424 - Unconscious Relationship Patterns with Alfina Lofaro This episode contains strong language and listener discretion is advised. We might change our jobs or our partners, just to find that later the same situation repeats in a new setting or with different people. Our patterns reach into our relationships with friends, loved ones, health, work, and even money, which is usually the point at which we start to wonder if we are the cause of it. What we learned about love as children is the foundation of our unconscious relationship patterns as adults, which makes them hard to see and understand. Uncovering a pattern is what ends its influence, and can give us back agency over our lives. The first relationship that changes is the one we have with ourselves. ALFINA LOFARO Alfina Lofaro grew up on a 300-acre farm in rural Queensland as the daughter of Italian migrants. From an early age, she learned to associate love with approval and belonging with achievement. For years, she tried to prove her worth through career success, qualifications and caring for others, while overlooking the relationship she had with herself. A painful period in her own life led her to examine the unconscious patterns that shape communication, conflict, approval-seeking and connection. That experience became the foundation of Love Deliberately, her work helping people build healthier relationships through trust, boundaries, compassion, communication and self-awareness. With more than two decades of experience as a kinesiologist, coach, educator, author, speaker and leadership facilitator, Alfina helps audiences understand how the way they relate to themselves and others influences every area of life—and how they can begin to love more consciously and deliberately. RESOURCES https://www.alfinalofaro.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/alfina-lofaro-bb222b91/ https://www.instagram.com/alfinalofaro/ https://www.facebook.com/alfina.lofaro THE JŌRNI RESOURCES The Functional Freeze Formula - Book https://functionalfreezeformula.com https://thejorni.com https://thejornipodcast.com for show notes https://thejorni.com/events for all of our upcoming events LIKED THIS EPISODE? Share this episode on social media and leave us a short review! https://thejornipodcast.com/episode-424-unconscious-relationship-patterns-with-alfina-lofaro