Influence Is Earned, Not Demanded: Interview with Catherine Hickem

On today’s Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with author and parenting expert Catherine Hickem for a powerful conversation about one of the hardest transitions we make as parents: learning how to parent our adult children without trying to control them. Catherine says influence has to be earned—not demanded. We talk about expectations, estrangement, boundaries, identity, fear, and why repairing a relationship starts by looking in the mirror instead of blaming your son or daughter. And maybe most importantly, Catherine reminds us that broken relationships can be redeemed and she explains what that looks like from her own life with her father. If you’re the parent of an adult child, you don’t want to miss this conversation. Resources mentioned on this podcast: "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" by Steve Cummings.  Your 5-star Amazon review would be gratefully received. Identity Exchange with Jamie and Donna Winship Identity Exchange YouTube Videos Parenting Adult Children Today with Catherine Hickem Pre-order Catherine's new book coming our February 16, 2027, "It's Never Too Late to Be a Great Parent."