233: Daddy Issues Are Real. Here’s What They Actually Look Like

Ever wonder why you keep dating the same type of person, people-please everyone around you, or never feel like enough no matter how much you achieve? It could be a father wound. Licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole, author of Father Wound, joins Sabrina to break down how an absent, emotionally unavailable, or abusive father shapes your self-worth, boundaries, attachment style, and relationships, and why calling it “daddy issues” misses the real worthiness wound underneath. You’ll learn the signs of an unhealed father wound (perfectionism, overgiving, hypervigilance, codependency, chasing avoidant partners and friends), how repetition compulsion keeps you stuck in the same painful relationship patterns, the role a mother plays in co-wounding, and 3 questions to tell when you’re reacting from childhood trauma instead of your adult self. Plus, real steps for healing the father wound, grieving the dad you didn’t get, and finally feeling worth protecting. Order Sabrina's book,⁠⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠ Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠⁠ Product of the week! ⁠https://amzn.to/4v1eHW⁠j Get Ad free ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠ Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠⁠ Support the show by supporting our sponsors: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SABRINA at https://www.oneskin.co/SABRINA #oneskinpod Chapters: 00:00 What Is a Father Wound? 04:48 Signs of an Unhealed Father Wound 10:39 How to Heal a Father Wound 16:37 Mother Wound and Co-Wounding 21:22 Overachieving to Prove Your Worth 26:29 Father Wound in Friendships and Dating 32:31 How Transference Shows Up in Your Life 37:39 Fear of Becoming Your Parent 42:57 Why Avoidants Deserve Empathy 48:09 Feeling Too Much and Not Enough Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices